Should i keep trying? (date, girlfriend, women, love)

[m1ckey]

Ok,so after about 2 or 3 months of having a crush on this girl in my class,i decided to finally talk to her.I think this was the first time i actually felt something for a girl in my life..So at first we were both really shy,but now that school's over we text a lot and we both know eachother pretty well(to the point where conversations were about sex and stuff like that).



2 days ago we were both invited to a party and i stayed near her and we talked a lot and everything went fine.After she left,a friend of hers told me that it'll be better for both of us if i stayed away from her and stopped talking to her.At first i was like because i knew that we were getting along pretty well so when i got home from the party i asked her if that was true.She replied saying that it isn't true and that i'm a nice guy and she wants me to talk to her because she enjoys it BUT that there is another person she likes.I was very disappointed and i asked her about that person.She finally ended up telling me that actually she doesn't like anyone and that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

So after that i stopped talking to her and now i don't know what to do.I'm gonna see her in 2 days,so maybe you guys can give me some advice because i think i love her and i dont want to lose her.

We're both 17.
Oh and sorry for the spelling mistakes(i'm really tired and english isn't my native language)

[NilaJones]

If platonic friendship with her isn't valuable to you (if you stopped talking to her when you learned she wanted to be just friends) then you do not 'love' her. You just have a crush on her.

Take some time apart, and your crush will fade into nonexistence. Then you can restart the friendship, if you want to.

Be aware that she will probably never find you attractive, sexually. That's what women mean when they say 'friends'. They mean someone (male or female) who they like a lot and hang out with, but are not attracted to. I'm sorry .

[Atai J.]

Originally Posted by m1ckey

She finally ended up telling me that actually she doesn't like anyone and that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend.

Even on the another side of the globe... Here is the same song.
She rejected you, in fact. It's better for you forget her. If she likes you, she will calling you herself. Be strong, you are the man.
And one thing. If you want to date with a girl you like - date with her girlfriend.
The old truth.

[raveabouttoast]

She doesn't like you the way you like her. If you still want to be friends, that's fine. But don't try to date her. It's just going to lead to rejection and disappointment.