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View Poll Results: If your man got scared and abandoned you, but he regrets it would you forgive?
No, that would be unforgivable 52 71.23%
Yes, everyone gets scared at some point 5 6.85%
Maybe, not sure but he failed 11 15.07%
Other 5 6.85%
Voters: 73. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 06-28-2013, 01:20 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I guess you forgot about the shooting in the movie theater last year where 3 guys died protecting their women from the gunman.
'Dark Knight' Shooting: 3 Boyfriends Die Shielding Girlfriends During Aurora Massacre (VIDEO, PHOTO)
There were women protecting men and children as well.

Jamie Rohrs left his fiancee, infant and toddler children behind and not just left the theatre, but ran to his car and drove away.
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Old 06-28-2013, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Gaston, South Carolina
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Jamie Rohrs left his fiancee, infant and toddler children behind and not just left the theatre, but ran to his car and drove away.
"Fortunately for Leggareta, there was someone in the theater who was willing to try and help them – a 19-year-old college student named Jarell Brooks who escorted her and her children to the exit, where miraculously enough, the Leggaretas escaped the shooting virtually unharmed. Brooks, however, took a bullet to the leg."

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An Awkward Engagement: Woman Agrees to Marry Man…After He Ditched Her in Aurora Theater | Video | TheBlaze.com
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Old 06-28-2013, 02:22 PM
 
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So how do you propose we find out who would do what? The OP has had two times to do the right thing, although the school incident can be forgiven as he was young. But when he was a man (age-wise, at least) he showed us what he would do under these circumstance. he ran. Besides the question he asked was if his actions were forgivable because, apparently, he thought maybe he had a chance to get back with the girl.

I cannot fathom leaving my wife in the same situation he left his girl, even if I thought formed myself back to 1994 when we were just dating.
He's human. We are all messed up creatures in some way.
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Old 06-29-2013, 01:45 AM
 
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A lot of armchair bad asses in this thread.
Lmao at your basic ASSumptions…
You do not know anyone whom has posted in opposition of the OP…

I cannot state anything true except for myself…AND furthermore…really? You know me and what I posted is a lie?
There is the flight or fight theory are you going to negate this as well?

So in all honesty for you to post what you have? Makes me pool you in the P-U-S-S-Y category…plain and simple…Time to insert your manpon and run from this thread..or a woman who is as much a coward to know when to stay and have your friends, family or SO’s back without a second thought…
So yes we have established one thing…You would have done the same thing as the poster…lol.. You should state this to upfront to anyone you choose to be in a relationship..asap…

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I guess you forgot about the shooting in the movie theater last year where 3 guys died protecting their women from the gunman.
'Dark Knight' Shooting: 3 Boyfriends Die Shielding Girlfriends During Aurora Massacre (VIDEO, PHOTO)
Okay..your point?
This was not some random stick up..this was a serial killer with an MO…

The people whom lost their lives most likely would not have done things differently because they perished protecting the ones they loved…

Soooo…to them the cause was worthy and they died protecting those they loved much as a parent taking a bullet for their child…again what is your point?

They at least did not flee leaving their SO or their child to perish …they do not have the distinct right to say “I am so glad I am alive!”
“I saw a gunman aiming towards my beloved or my wife and children and I fawking ran” My loved ones are dead as I ran”

They are doing nothing I would not do for someone I loved especially a loved one, a family member or god forbid my son!
At least I would know I did what I could…And NEVER live with regret …
Again these type of situations separate people..
I guess we know what type you are…I hope you are not in law enforcement or military..I would be asking for immediate replacement..
SUCH COWARDS on this thread…lmao
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Old 06-29-2013, 02:03 AM
 
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What if he had kidnapped her and/or raped her? You didn't have to fight him; you could have told him to take the money and leave. You could have given him any money and valuables that you both had and told him to take it and go. The fact that you left her there alone with him is pretty bad.

I'm a woman and I wouldn't leave another woman (or man for that matter) if we were being robbed. I wouldn't try to physically fight the robber, but I'd feel like the two of us were in it together, whatever happened.
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Old 06-29-2013, 07:40 AM
 
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Lmao at your basic ASSumptions…
You do not know anyone whom has posted in opposition of the OP…

I cannot state anything true except for myself…AND furthermore…really? You know me and what I posted is a lie?
There is the flight or fight theory are you going to negate this as well?

So in all honesty for you to post what you have? Makes me pool you in the P-U-S-S-Y category…plain and simple…Time to insert your manpon and run from this thread..or a woman who is as much a coward to know when to stay and have your friends, family or SO’s back without a second thought…
So yes we have established one thing…You would have done the same thing as the poster…lol.. You should state this to upfront to anyone you choose to be in a relationship..asap…

SUCH COWARDS on this thread…lmao
Another armchair bad ass here that turns into John McClane and Bryan Mills combined in a fight-or-flight situation.

I bet a lot of people in this thread would have done what he did despite their upthrust chest pounding to the contrary. That is why being a hero is such a rare thing.
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Old 06-29-2013, 02:46 PM
 
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To be perfectly honest, none of us can be sure what we'll actually do when the chips are down. I mean I could say that I would stay and protect an SO but maybe in the heat of the moment I run. Or likewise, I might say that I would run but in the end, not.

But like I said, there are tiers of importance.

If it was GF I just started dating, no way I'm risking life and limb for someone I just met. I'm running at the first opportunity and hope she takes the same opportunity to run with me.

If it was an SO or close friends/family. I doubt that my pride, Chinese concept of "face", and all that gushy stuff regarding love/friendship would let me run away and abandon them.
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Old 06-29-2013, 02:53 PM
 
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Yeah, what the hell? Did you not feel the slightest protective instinct over your girlfriend?

How old are you?
This. I know people panic, but love and protective instinct will usually overcome that.

Honestly , to actually run away is fairly reprehensible. I'm sure you feel awful , but that doesn't change what happened.
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Old 06-30-2013, 02:58 AM
 
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Another armchair bad ass here that turns into John McClane and Bryan Mills combined in a fight-or-flight situation.

I bet a lot of people in this thread would have done what he did despite their upthrust chest pounding to the contrary. That is why being a hero is such a rare thing.
Lol…the funny thing is as I type this? I am neither ruffled nor upset just amused as I see cowards like you gather up the gusto to post..lmao~

Not only have I posted a situation I experienced in my past…but I would like to add that as a former Transitional Housing Coordinator for a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE safe house?

We have faced issues such as these…
I was mama…My job was to ensure to not only give certified counseling, assist in services regarding social services to my girls and their babies?
I also assisted in filing court docs, attending court with my girls but also ensuring that their perps did not find them…

We have lost women to DV where I reside…A incident that occurred before my incident was with a former client whose perp found her after leaving our program.
Her perp saw her and her children in a car and chased her all the way to the PD sub station and jumped on top of her car and shot her…she survived but barely…
The incident that followed led to a perp that had court with one of my girls and let loose in court and called her a loser and a ***** ? Let us over look that he threw my client down a flight of stairs as her 2 boys watched,,
My client felt that after the fact when the perp stated to her that he was sorry and he wanted to provide “Cable” for her because he knew how much his boys loved to watch Nick Jr?
That he could obtain her address since he was paying the bill?

Well it happened on a Thursday, the reason I recall the day was because I did a run to the foodbank on these days to provide food for our women and children to help them since some of these women had no access to social services just yet or were not getting enough money to buy all the food they needed for them and their children…

As I was pulling up to the Housing ( safe house) unit..I observed a white male, early 30’s…shaved head, tats everywhere, with his sweatshirt slung over his shoulder approaching the safe house and trying to get into the coded gate…I recognized him from court and pics…
I did not THINK twice..I drove the company van on the sidewalk
Got out and called him by his name “Shane” I know who you are, you have one minute to leave here before I call the fawkin cops…This guy was 6’0 and then some…
He pretended not to know me or who he was and then called me a b-I-t-c-h and I smiled and told him He was not going to come in…
And held out my phone…he kept walking..
My mother chastised me when I told her ..she stated to me that I was not a young girl anymore and I could have been really hurt or killed…
I stated to her that I did not think about my son them or anything…I told her that these women were mine to protect and I had to think of the well being of the other 22 residents as well as my girl and her 2 boys..
I guess it is only considered arm chair when you are a complete coward and cannot see yourself doing the right thing despite your safety because at the time?
You are not thinking of YOUR OWN PERSONAL SAFETY…
You are concerned on what the target is and what to do and you simply act..
I know this is hard for you to fathom especially if your selfish and a COWARD,,
The OP stated he felt ashamed and has regrets? This is what happens when you are a coward..
Its okay…doing the right thing is not for everyone I grant you permission to sit back and continue being a coward….lol…
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Old 06-30-2013, 03:15 AM
 
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Yeah, lets have them facing down the barrel of a gun and I'd love to see how brave some of these folks are.
I'm sorry dude, but I would never leave a loved one if a guy flashed a gun at me and wanted whatever money we had.

Would I maybe see my life flashing before my eyes? Yeah, I probably would, I might even have tears because I don't want to die, but I still wouldn't leave my loved ones. I've never had a weapon drawn on me before, but someone has attempted to mug me by coming up behind me and striking me in the back to try to confuse me and get me on the ground prone. I was lucky because he didn't hit me hard enough to knock me to the ground and I was able to catch myself and stop his advances. None of that matters if the guy pulls out a gun or a knife because all it takes is 2 seconds and I'm bleeding to death.

It's possible that I'd freeze for a moment because I don't get mugged every day or on a weekly basis, but running away is an option I can't see myself thinking about, since I'm not the kind of person to just run away from a situation especially if loved ones are involved.
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