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Old 06-28-2013, 03:25 PM
 
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Generational gap + the fact you're only seeing 5 second snippets of the interaction. Add alcohol + the bar environment and it makes sense. I really don't see the problem. This board often recommends guys who complain about being unsuccessful to get off the computer and meet women. Same thing.

Anyway - she's cute! I would definitely feel lucky if she came up and talked with me =P.

I don't see what the problem with the "PUA" is either - he actually had good advice and directed her appropriately. In fact I know I've seen his advice mentioned on this board before - so I don't get the hate..
If this is how it's done these days...I'm GLAD there is a generational gap. I'd honestly slap one of my friends if she conducted herself like that around a bunch of men. If this girl was going for the "cheap, desperate and easy" look...she scored!
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Old 06-28-2013, 03:28 PM
 
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That is a two way street, my friend. I haven't wanted a long term romantic relationship with any man I have shagged in the last 8 years. Not their fault, it's just not what suits my lifestyle right now. I can assure you that benefits are entirely mutual.
Brilliant. Hold onna minute while I go down the slxt puppy check list to see if you qualify.

Women don't accomplish anything by shagging guys for 8 yrs. In fact while you were standing there raising your hand going "PICK ME, PICK ME!!" the other 150 million women in America were taking a step back and going ewwwwww. You won by default. Kapish?
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Old 06-28-2013, 05:58 PM
 
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That is the definition of the friendzone. No sexual/physical attraction but you keep talking to that person like friends do.
Wrong. Manipulation is an important piece of the puzzle.
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Old 06-28-2013, 05:59 PM
 
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That is a two way street, my friend. I haven't wanted a long term romantic relationship with any man I have shagged in the last 8 years. Not their fault, it's just not what suits my lifestyle right now. I can assure you that benefits are entirely mutual.
So you offer sex to men without requiring commitment. What does that have to do with the topic at hand? You fall into a different category.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:15 PM
 
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Wrong. Manipulation is an important piece of the puzzle.
Nope, not really. I've been put in the 'friendzone' by many, MANY men and there was never any manipulation involved...they just weren't into me physically but we got along personality wise. So many people THINK they're being manipulated because they aren't getting what they want (a relationship or sex) but in reality they're being treated just like a regular ole friend.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:20 PM
 
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Nope, not really. I've been put in the 'friendzone' by many, MANY men and there was never any manipulation involved...they just weren't into me physically but we got along personality wise. So many people THINK they're being manipulated because they aren't getting what they want (a relationship or sex) but in reality they're being treated just like a regular ole friend.
Yep.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:20 PM
 
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Wow, Mehow the "the professional pick-up artist" is full of sh*t. The reason this girl keeps getting friend zoned is because she's not attractive. She needs to dramatically lower her standards.

Well that was a complete waste of 30 seconds and pick up artist are about as artistic as my cats.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:20 PM
 
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Nope, not really. I've been put in the 'friendzone' by many, MANY men and there was never any manipulation involved...they just weren't into me physically but we got along personality wise. So many people THINK they're being manipulated because they aren't getting what they want (a relationship or sex) but in reality they're being treated just like a regular ole friend.
You are not describing the friend zone, you are merely describing men who don't want to have sex with you but still want to be your friend. There is a difference. A HUGE difference.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:34 PM
 
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You are not describing the friend zone, you are merely describing men who don't want to have sex with you but still want to be your friend. There is a difference. A HUGE difference.
There IS no difference. None at all. I wanted a relationship, he didn't because he wasn't interested in me physically so he put me in the 'friendzone'. No big, you move on.
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Old 06-28-2013, 06:43 PM
 
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There IS no difference. None at all. I wanted a relationship, he didn't because he wasn't interested in me physically so he put me in the 'friendzone'. No big, you move on.
I think guys are so convinced that they can get out of the friendzone when they are put in it by women that they think the reverse is true when the genders are switched.
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