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We dated 6 months, and while that is not a super-long time, we were VERY into each other, and both felt at one time it might be "the one".
Never once argued, but did realize we are incompatible
Ended with a hug and kiss, but both agreed some distance is in order.
It's been a few days, and while I have a big hole in my heart, I also KNOW that it is the best, and in that sense I have a weight off my shoulders. Being the right thing does not make it easy, but it does help in some way, I think. Anyway, I'm feeling kinda guilty that all of the sudden, there is NO CONTACT. We both agreed it was best, and that we'd probably not even cross paths since we don't have any friends in common, other than those who we introduced during dating (and they'll stay with whom they've known for a long time.)
But anyway, I'm not really looking for advice, but I'd like to listen to, or partake in a discussion about "break it off clean" vs. "Remain friends". I would value what others have to say.
Break it off clean. It feels like ripping a bandaid off and then you have an open sore exposed (which is the hardest part) but when you're so into each other like that, it's the best way, imo. You will heal and move on in time. You can keep your good memories of your time together this way and your hope alive, rather than staying together and things whithering away slowly to the point that you hate each other and hate life.
I'd say it depends on the nature of the incompatibility, and each of your ability to keep things to friendship only if you stay in touch.
Many - perhaps even most - of the women I've dated for any length of time remained friends after we broke up. If we weren't compatible for a relationship, we were usually still compatible enough to be friends, and clear on why that should be the extent of it. If one wishes for more, it won't work. Usually, you can tell if they do, and decide accordingly.
It has been my experience anything other than a clean break doesn't work. You don't erase the erotic with the face, body and mind. And has been stated, anything else just doesn't meet expectations. No one eats a regurgitated meal. It is cast out for a reason.
I'd say it depends on the nature of the incompatibility, and each of your ability to keep things to friendship only if you stay in touch.
Many - perhaps even most - of the women I've dated for any length of time remained friends after we broke up. If we weren't compatible for a relationship, we were usually still compatible enough to be friends, and clear on why that should be the extent of it. If one wishes for more, it won't work. Usually, you can tell if they do, and decide accordingly.
im friends with every female i have broken off romantic relations with mutually. no drama involved and they are all great people that i have known for well over 15 years
without echoing what you said again in my own words, i will just agree
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