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(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name. But I'd be interested to know how you would divide up 100 points between the above attributes with respect to evaluating serious, long-term partner?
Thats kind of hard.
a) 35%
b) 20%
c) 25%
d) 15%
But it doesn't work that way. Its not addition, but multiplication. Hence I much rather have a) C
b) C c) C d) C than a) F b) A c) F d) A even though they get the same score with addition.
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click) 40
(b) - attraction (physical looks) 20
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is) 40
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic) 0
I have no interest in their money. However, if they are not able to support themselves without my help, that is a problem.
It's also a problem if they don't have work that they enjoy and that has some benefit to society. This is a personality thing.
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name. But I'd be interested to know how you would divide up 100 points between the above attributes with respect to evaluating serious, long-term partner?
I'm not sure how to quantify it, but I'll list them in order of importance. I'm a woman.
1. Looks - They grab my attention first, but may not keep it. I'm not saying he has to look like Robert Downey Jr, but there has to be something about him that captures my attention. Of course, looking like RDJ is definitely a plus! I don't date men I don't find attractive, no matter how nice they are. I've learned the hard way that doesn't work for me.
2. Personality - I look for personality as soon as I've determined I find someone attractive, since it will determine whether or not I will continue to find the person attractive. A great personality will make someone all that much more appealing to me and a horrible one will make the most beautiful man ugly.
3. Good heart - Inner beauty is even more important than outer beauty and can make someone even more beautiful outside, so I look at someone's heart after I've determined I like the looks and personality. Part of having a good heart is his integrity. Without integrity, loyalty, honesty, etc., he can take a walk.
4. Financial stability - Since money is one of the largest causes of divorce, I do believe we need to be on the same page with financial goals. I don't want to date a spendthrift, just I don't want to date a cheapskate. Balance is key to all things, so he needs to save for tomorrow while still knowing how to spend wisely for today and know how to prioritize the spending. It's generally hard to know this immediately, so I put it last. It was actually a huge reason why I split with the love of my life - I knew if we married that we'd eventually have horrible fights over his spending habits and that I would suffer for it because I was so much younger.
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name.
I'm a man
(a) 20%
(b) 5%
(c) 75%
(d) 0%
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 07-03-2013 at 08:51 PM..
Reason: Edits
30 (a) - personality [I definitely want a woman that I enjoy talking to]
39 (b) - attraction [I'm just not going to sleep with someone I'm not attracted to. It's a deal breaker]
30 (c) - good heart
1 (d) - ability to provide [meh, I like intelligent women a but bimbo with a nice smile and a big heart would do me just fine]
D: 10% (I'd prefer him to hold a job where he is somewhat content. I wouldn't want to hear him about his job all the time. I don't need another person's money. I've been taking care of myself for years).
I want someone who workouts. That is very important to me.
I have met someone who seems to be the complete package. We are seeing what life has in store for us.
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I don't date men I don't find attractive, no matter how nice they are. I've learned the hard way that doesn't work for me.
about his job all the time. I don't need another person's money. I've been taking care of myself for years).
