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(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name. But I'd be interested to know how you would divide up 100 points between the above attributes with respect to evaluating serious, long-term partner?
(a) 35 I think personality and enjoying each other's company is #1. My hubby is my best friend.
(b) 15
(c) 30
(d) 20
All of the above 100% both ways, balanced, a partnership, none more important than the others alone.
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
I consider A personality how fun some someone is, how much you enjoy their company, how much you have in common, etc. One can be all these things but not be warm, loyal or overly caring about you. Nor could they have a strong career or work ethic to improve themselves professionally. I hear what you are saying but I guess its just different dimensions of one's personality that I'm trying to isolate.
Surely everyone has specific things that they are looking for in a partner but personally, I don't like to set up a list to go by.
Sometimes I just laugh at some of the threads and comments here lol, how people would list the different attributes their partner should have, because usually when you really fall for someone and are "Swept-away", you sometimes don't even know the "Reason" you love that person. You forget about "the list".
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name. But I'd be interested to know how you would divide up 100 points between the above attributes with respect to evaluating serious, long-term partner?
Am female.
Can't separate/distinguish A from C, though.
49% B-
it's not the most important, yet without it I can't sustain the intimacy.
He doesn't have to be great-looking, just appealing *enough*
to my senses (including but not limited to visual aspects).
49% A/C-
if I don't like the person's insides, it matters not if I like the outsides.
2% D-
material circumstances are *nearly* immaterial in my consideration of someone.
(a) - personality (how well you get along and click)
(b) - attraction (physical looks)
(c) - good heart (how caring and loyal one is)
(d) - ability to provide (education/job/work ethic)
Please state if you are a woman or man if it's not obvious from you user name. But I'd be interested to know how you would divide up 100 points between the above attributes with respect to evaluating serious, long-term partner?
(a) 35 I think personality and enjoying each other's company is #1. My hubby is my best friend.
(b) 15
(c) 30
(d) 20
I'm male. I'd approximately give a ratio like this:
(a) 35
(b) 20
(c) 40
(d) 5
#1. Personality matters a lot, probably scores top. However, when I talk about it, it usually involves the #3 as well, which are very important things in your spouse. I'd say that things like view on life, everyday living and other things are a crucial thing.
#2. Looks don't play much of a role but let's be honest, looks play the role to attract people's attention, after all. On top of all, being good-looking is a big plus. Do note that looks play an important role only during a first date or two. After you went through first few dates, you either accept the looks or not. Someone needs to be seriously hideous for the looks to play such an overwhelming role, but other (hygienic) roles would play a much bigger role in it.
#3. I'm more into seeking a good role-model in everyday life than anything else. I'm accomplished solidly, would like a caring person. A simple lifestyle and a simple home without some extravagant stuff. I'm more into a kind, caring and loyal person than into a "business partners". I'm doing business at my work, and I'm a different person outside of work, I'm more of a family type.
#4. I've ranked ability to provide the lowest (and significantly low indeed) because I don't think I'll need a double earner household (well... I'm not a millionaire, but I might say I'm doing decently well). However, I'd rather think of my children if anything happens, it's good to know that there's another parent who could provide if the need arises, in case of some medical problem, death, or some other terrible thing. While I wouldn't be having a problem to support someone else (and the whole family), it's really good to know that they'd be willing and be able to play such role in case of dire need, even if for just a humble living. This means that the "personality" plays a role in there again, or the #3 (loyalty/good heart).
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