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IDK looks like I'm in the minority here but I think breaking up with him over this is a bit drastic. As someone else said talk is cheap, in reality nothing physically happened between them. He didnt want to travel alone so he asked her to join him, maybe he was hoping to just get some company and perhaps get lucky in the side. You two don't seem like you were exclusively back together yet, so maybe she was the backup plan. I think you should focus in the fact that he hasn't really spoken to her since then. I'm not taking his side here, I can see how this would bother you, and I'd definitely be more cautious with him, but I wouldn't break up with him just yet.
Bottom line: Nothing ruins a relationship quite like Facebook!
Regardless of whether or not it's ethical, smart, etc. to go through somebody's private correspondence, you did it, and you found out something you don't like, but that is good for you to know. You now know that regardless of being together for a couple of years, when things were shaky, your BF was looking at other options. When the other options shot him down, he settled for you. Can you live with that? I probably couldn't.
pretty much all i have to say, already said for me.
IDK looks like I'm in the minority here but I think breaking up with him over this is a bit drastic. As someone else said talk is cheap, in reality nothing physically happened between them. He didnt want to travel alone so he asked her to join him, maybe he was hoping to just get some company and perhaps get lucky in the side. You two don't seem like you were exclusively back together yet, so maybe she was the backup plan. I think you should focus in the fact that he hasn't really spoken to her since then. I'm not taking his side here, I can see how this would bother you, and I'd definitely be more cautious with him, but I wouldn't break up with him just yet.
Bottom line: Nothing ruins a relationship quite like Facebook!
I'd say it was more the trying to book travel time with an ex that was issue, than Facebook. Just me.
Hell no!! Tell him to be sure to ask her on all of his trips, cause` you are outta` there! That's so much B.S.
Some still want their cake and eat it too.
I'd say it was more the trying to book travel time with an ex that was issue, than Facebook. Just me.
She read the messages in his Facebook account. I know Facebook isn't the reason, but had she not went on under his name she'd have never seen those messages.
Either way faulting a guy for what he did or said before they became exclusive again just doesn't seem very fair. Looks to me like he may have just been seeking female companionship while they were broken up, which is understandable.
But we weren't broken up- We started dating again already, we were sort of a couple already again, and only one day later (after she didn't reply to his message the day before) he initiated 'the talk', asked me if all the last days meant that we're a couple again now because that's what he wants. And we were already officially back together when he wrote her 'I just had to ask, it would have been awesome'.
But you're right, I think I cannot live with being the second choice. I'm just wondering why did he want to get back together with me and why does he permanently say he loves me if I'm the backup plan?
His ex lives halfway around the world from him in Europe. He has his job and his life where he is now and long distance relationships are hard. You were the easier choice I suspect
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