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Davros, do you think it is somehow exotic, or romantic or...IDK...mysterious to be The One That No One Understands? I picture you with the back of your hand to your forehead, rolling your eyes and swooning dramatically. but NO ONE CARES.
Frankly, I don't think most people worry about whether they "Truly Understand" other people or not, or if they themselves are "Truly Understood." They have their own concerns of negotiating the harsh real world around them. Job, grades, money, relationships, illness, death of a loved one, you get the picture.
Crying about being misunderstood by the world just seems like such a bunch of mental masturbation, of the sort a bored, insecure narcissist might indulge in.
There is no point in my asking advice on this forum, because none of you can understand my thoughts and my reasons for giving up completely on ever dating in my life.
You can't understand that I know that I am basically unlovable and even if some woman gave me a chance, she'd soon grow tired of me and move on. Therefore, there is no point in even trying to find a girlfriend, because it would never last. There's no point in going through the pain of rejection, because it would all be for nothing, because I know that there is no chance of me ever having a lasting and positive relationship.
I am simply like an alien on this planet, not able to form any connections with any human beings because I am too different, and have too abrasive a personality. And my condition is permanent because it is my nature. So, there is not point in trying "to change" or "improve" or any of that sort of stuff that's always thrown at me. I'm always going to be the way I am and that's all there is to it.
There are many times that I "wish" I could be different, "wish" I could be normal, "wish" I could love a woman ... but then I catch myself, and say, no, I am who I am, and that is a Rock and an Island.
There is no point in my asking advice on this forum, because none of you can understand my thoughts and my reasons for giving up completely on ever dating in my life.
You can't understand that I know that I am basically unlovable and even if some woman gave me a chance, she'd soon grow tired of me and move on. Therefore, there is no point in even trying to find a girlfriend, because it would never last. There's no point in going through the pain of rejection, because it would all be for nothing, because I know that there is no chance of me ever having a lasting and positive relationship.
I am simply like an alien on this planet, not able to form any connections with any human beings because I am too different, and have too abrasive a personality. And my condition is permanent because it is my nature. So, there is not point in trying "to change" or "improve" or any of that sort of stuff that's always thrown at me. I'm always going to be the way I am and that's all there is to it.
There are many times that I "wish" I could be different, "wish" I could be normal, "wish" I could love a woman ... but then I catch myself, and say, no, I am who I am, and that is a Rock and an Island.
What is normal?
Why would you care to be conventional?
First step-Don't compare yourself to others.
Second step- own everything about you. Abrasive people find love all the time. We all got our own flaws, mon!
I've been waiting to be approached for all my life, and it's never happened. Maybe I'm not decent looking. I know I look kind of sloppy and non fashionable.
Thanks for the encouragement, though. But I think I really am becoming satisfied with being alone. Am in therapy though, and am thinking of working on some of these issues.
No. It's evident to everyone but you that you're not.
Between your self-proclaimed abrasive personality, sloppiness, whatever other personal quirks you have, combined with your health condition, you are facing an uphill battle. You have to be 100% willing to do the work required to change your outlook and attitude if you ever want to be happy in your life. I think the last thing you need to consider is finding a woman.
If you're unhappy with your life, make changes. Nobody ever said it would be easy. That stuff about it being your nature is just a cop-out. You can always make a conscious effort to treat people better. You can always consider whether you are treating people the way you would want them to treat you.
If you don't want to change, then don't. But if that's your course, don't go on Internet sites to talk about how hard it is to be you.
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