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Old 07-09-2013, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I don't want my wife to dress too provocatively often, and usually she's the one who sets the limits anyway. However, certain events like dances and some parties lend themselves to sexy attire - and all the other women are dressed similarly.

In that case - and especially if your SO has the figure for it - it's fun. I don't mind being envied, she doesn't mind being appreciated - the only downside (sometimes) is some other women who get bent out of shape if they feel they can't compete. Anyway, far from being insecure, I'm proud that this lovely person has chosen me!
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Old 07-09-2013, 11:00 AM
 
Location: California
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Do most men hate when their significant other wears revealing clothing because they don't want other men checking her out or is the guy just really insecure?
I know I wouldn't mind, now if it were my daughter, that would be another story!!
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Old 07-09-2013, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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And why is insecurity always implied like some imposing perversion? If you need to display/share your physique with the public, you need to prepare for what comes with that as well. Everyone is different.
But is a woman wearing a tank top and shorts to a cookout displaying her physique to the world, or is she just wearing what's appropriate for a casual outdoor event on a hot day? The idea that if a woman goes outside in anything other than a baggy muu muu that she's asking for undue attention isn't cool.
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Old 07-09-2013, 11:58 AM
 
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Do most men hate when their significant other wears revealing clothing because they don't want other men checking her out or is the guy just really insecure?
i take the view that women consciously choose to dress certain ways for certain reasons.

i don't usually know what those reasons are, but if i feel like there's some bad or malicious reason why she's dressing that way, yes i reserve the right to consider that a problem.
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Old 07-09-2013, 12:05 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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But is a woman wearing a tank top and shorts to a cookout displaying her physique to the world, or is she just wearing what's appropriate for a casual outdoor event on a hot day? The idea that if a woman goes outside in anything other than a baggy muu muu that she's asking for undue attention isn't cool.
Depends entirely on her body type. A tanktop and shorts on a woman who is thin, athletic, small chested etc.? Perfectly fine. Add large breasts or very curvy backside and all of a sudden she'll be considered to be 'showing off'.
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Old 07-09-2013, 12:10 PM
 
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Depends entirely on her body type. A tanktop and shorts on a woman who is thin, athletic, small chested etc.? Perfectly fine. Add large breasts or very curvy backside and all of a sudden she'll be considered to be 'showing off'.
this is exactly how i feel about my codpiece! perfectly acceptable among renaissance era royalty, but whenever i put it on and plug it into the wall, all of a sudden it's 'showing off'
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Old 07-09-2013, 02:57 PM
 
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Do most men hate when their significant other wears revealing clothing because they don't want other men checking her out or is the guy just really insecure?
I think that depends a lot on how the woman dressed in the beginning of the relationship. If she suddenly (out of the blue) starts wearing very revealing clothes, when she never did before, I could see most men being concerned..like what's going on?..But if the woman always dressed that way, and he fell in love with her , then he has no right to expect her to change for him. If he does, then Yes, he IS insecure.
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Old 07-09-2013, 07:11 PM
 
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I think that depends a lot on how the woman dressed in the beginning of the relationship. If she suddenly (out of the blue) starts wearing very revealing clothes, when she never did before, I could see most men being concerned..like what's going on?..But if the woman always dressed that way, and he fell in love with her , then he has no right to expect her to change for him. If he does, then Yes, he IS insecure.
Couldn't agree more.
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Old 07-09-2013, 07:31 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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When a woman wears Daisy Dukes shorts on a day where she knows there will be a lot of aggressive hounds out and about, she's doing it to provoke a reaction - both from the hounds and her man.
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Old 07-09-2013, 07:56 PM
 
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I think it's about comon sense, will i want a girlfriend to be dressed like a stripper in an environment where i can expect a lot of other dudes i don't know and where there is plenty of alcohol in the picture? of course not.

But I can be certain that the very minute I start walking down the street with a woman looking just above average there will be other men looking at her, no matter what she's wearing.
After that it's all up to how she handles it...
If she either ignores them or flipps em off with style then I'm completely fine with it.

But if she makes a point out of squeezing the last bit of attention out of her looks we're gonna have a problem.

Also what purehuman said, unless a lot of time has passed...
If I start dating a woman today and we are still seeing each other when we're 35, then maybe I'd expect her wardrobe (as well as my own) to have "matured"...
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