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If he's smaller than average, he probably has anxiety about it to begin with. You took that love boat and nuked it out of the water, then you shot all the survivors by doing it in front of his friends.
You can try apologizing profusely, but as a guy (especially since he already spent the night at someone else's house) I'd be absolutely shocked if he stayed with you for long.
I wonder if he hasn't already packed and is gone and called off the "engagement", I'm also wondering if she is going to tell the truth about the reason the engagement/wedding has been called off (IF it is) or if she is going to make up some cover story lie.
Tell him "we really need to talk about that incident at the party, I feel awful!" Then stick with the "it was a joke" angle, and say something like "People really say stupid things when they're half-drunk. I thought it would be funny, but it wasn't. And I feel horrible about it. It was SO unfair to you! Can you forgive me?"
Next time, watch how much you drink. Your engagement is at stake.
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Approach the situation with contrition and dignity; ask if this is something from which you can move on. I wouldn't let him stew over it for very long. One or two nights away shows he's trying to deal with it. Longer than that and it's a passive aggressive punishment.
And I'd definitely cut out the drinking. You've proved you can't handle your liquor, saying something as low down as that.
Congrats OP...We have all walks of life here from sex addicts to proud prudes; we appear to all be on the same page that it's about the worst thing that can be said.
I expect my input is too late, but in case it helps someone else:
He already knew he was small (though there is a faint possibility he didn't know you knew). Pretty much all guys measure themselves and look up what the average size is.
Consequently, assuring him you love sex with him, and demonstrating that, will help a little bit but not much -- because that's not the problem. He knows you saw his peen before you agreed to marry him.
The problem is that you did not keep his secret. He is probably wondering who else you have told, who else you WILL tell, and whether he can ever trust you with anything else again. Plus, the shame.
Let him do whatever he wants with or around other people one time and let him blame it on being "drunk and stupid". Then completely forgive him and forget it. Then you'll be even.
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You're lucky he didn't retort with "It's because her vagina is huge. We're talking massive here!" 
