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I have to admit, this is a pretty good assesment of me. I really do like being in the driver's seat in a relationship. Not to say I want a woman to be a pushover, I do like a strong woman. But I do like to control most aspects of the relationship, but there are areas where I wouldn't mind reliquishing control. I for one like being the provider and bread winner. I find if that was taken away from me in a relationship, it would be very devastating to my ego. I would have a very hard time justifying my value to the union. To some degree, perhaps a young struggling single mother is easier to deal with, because I spent less time questioning my overall value to her. It's very obvious what my value is. Though I don't like the extreme cases of this either. for example, I don't want a woman to sit around doing nothing with her life, while I handled everything. Even if I made the money, I would love for her to contribute something as well.
So you use young single mother to make yourself feel better? Feel like you're important ? When really you're just an insecure sh1t? I feel sorry for any young single struggling female to gets involved with you! When I hear guys like you on this site I thank god every day I'm single and try even harder to bring my son up PROPERLY WITH GOOD MORALS and VALUES and pray he doesn't turn out like some of you idiots on here.
So you use young single mother to make yourself feel better? Feel like you're important ? When really you're just an insecure sh1t? I feel sorry for any young single struggling female to gets involved with you! When I hear guys like you on this site I thank god every day I'm single and try even harder to bring my son up PROPERLY WITH GOOD MORALS and VALUES and pray he doesn't turn out like some of you idiots on here.
You my friend need a good kick up the arse!
Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with my comment. do you think you can tell me what I said that would generate such a response?
I have to admit, this is a pretty good assesment of me. I really do like being in the driver's seat in a relationship. Not to say I want a woman to be a pushover, I do like a strong woman. But I do like to control most aspects of the relationship, but there are areas where I wouldn't mind reliquishing control. I for one like being the provider and bread winner. I find if that was taken away from me in a relationship, it would be very devastating to my ego. I would have a very hard time justifying my value to the union. To some degree, perhaps a young struggling single mother is easier to deal with, because I spent less time questioning my overall value to her. It's very obvious what my value is. Though I don't like the extreme cases of this either. for example, I don't want a woman to sit around doing nothing with her life, while I handled everything. Even if I made the money, I would love for her to contribute something as well.
Very interesting, thank you for sharing more info. J/c though, why would you feel a need to have to control most aspects of the relationship? I mean, you could still hypothetically provide for her, in a relationship of full equals, right?
For example, I am romantically involved with a very sweet, very nice and incredibly kindhearted younger lady as well atm, maybe currently between just about around 2-3 years younger than your g/f perhaps I think, but there is full and 100% equality, between her and I There is no need for control on either side -- everything is shared 50-50, between us. Believe it or not lol, full equality can actually be quite and very liberating, especially if you both feel that you can fully-trust each other in that kind of way...
Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with my comment. do you think you can tell me what I said that would generate such a response?
I thought I bolded the part that I found offensive ?
You said you use young single mothers........being one myself I find that very disturbing that guys like you exist for one but you don't see any harm in what you do
I thought I bolded the part that I found offensive ?
You said you use young single mothers........being one myself I find that very disturbing that guys like you exist for one but you don't see any harm in what you do
No, I think everyone adds value to a relationship in some way. Just as you add value to a department at your job. If you aren't bringing any value to the table, then how can you justify the existence of the relationship? That doesn't make any sense. There is nothing wrong with quantifying your overall value in a relationship.
I thought I bolded the part that I found offensive ?
You said you use young single mothers........being one myself I find that very disturbing that guys like you exist for one but you don't see any harm in what you do
you're making it sound like I'm predatory, which I'm not. I don't take advantage of younger women, although I may do nice things for them. They benefit far more than I do
you're making it sound like I'm predatory, which I'm not. I don't take advantage of younger women, although I may do nice things for them. They benefit far more than I do
You said that you find it easier being with them?
So if it's not to make yourself feel needed or to be the more dominant in the relationship then why go after young single mothers?
No, I think everyone adds value to a relationship in some way. Just as you add value to a department at your job. If you aren't bringing any value to the table, then how can you justify the existence of the relationship? That doesn't make any sense. There is nothing wrong with quantifying your overall value in a relationship.
Well I would think that most people would agree that bringing themselves to the table is enough? No?
Personally if I'm in love I'm not interested in what else he can bring to the table for me having his heart and commitment would be enough.
So if it's not to make yourself feel needed or to be the more dominant in the relationship then why go after young single mothers?
I don't specifically target younger single mothers. But I certainly seem to not turn them away either. And yes I do need to feel needed and be dominant in the relationship. I don't mean total domination though. I would prefer a woman with a sense of direction herself and who can make some sort of contribution
Well I would think that most people would agree that bringing themselves to the table is enough? No?
Personally if I'm in love I'm not interested in what else he can bring to the table for me having his heart and commitment would be enough.
That doesn't sound realistic. Your value doesn't come from simply existing
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I mean, you could still hypothetically provide for her, in a relationship of full equals, right? 
There is no need for control on either side -- everything is shared 50-50, between us. Believe it or not lol, full equality can actually be quite and very liberating, especially if you both feel that you can fully-trust each other in that kind of way... 
