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Men, what percentage of women who have approached you did you turn down? Also, share why you turned them down. Include online dating site contacts only if you identify them as such.
nearly all the messages i get online are from VERY big women, or from moms; I've turned down nearly all those ... but then at the same time, the only two girls i've spent any length of time with from online were girls who contacted me first.
in person, i've turned down blatant offers of sex a few times, because i was suspicious of STDs. (do not regret.) i can only regret turning one girl down .... a hooters waitress... which i kick myself to this day over.
and as far as non-online dating go.. its been a mixed bag. i've had some not-so-attractive girls who wanted to date me, and i KNEW i would've just used them for sex, so i tried to be the 'nice guy' and turn them down, even though i wanted to bang.
I have been ask out on a date by the opposite sex a few times. Some I knew, some were complete strangers. If I wasn't dating anyone I would say "Yes" whether I find the person attracted or not because I know it takes courage to ask any one out on a date.
Now, have I ever been ask by a girl to go steady in a relationship? Nope. All of the girls that I've met over the years, if they like me, they would give me plenty of hints and since I'm not that stupid. I usually can pick up the hint.
I have been approached sometimes indirectly and even a few times directly, but the reject percentage is high, because girls who approach guys are often desperate.
I have been approached sometimes indirectly and even a few times directly, but the reject percentage is high, because girls who approach guys are often desperate.
Turned down a couple in my time. They were direct in my case about their interest. One told me last year to call her when me and my girlfriend break up. We ain't never broken up. Some women can be very direct.
I have been approached sometimes indirectly and even a few times directly, but the reject percentage is high, because girls who approach guys are often desperate.
I have been approached sometimes indirectly and even a few times directly, but the reject percentage is high, because girls who approach guys are often desperate.
Agreed. If a woman is attractive and desirable, she'll never have to approach a man. Ever. The women who do have to approach men are usually the ones who don't have any approaching them, so by default they have to make a move. These women are often viewed as 'easy' by the men they pursue.
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Originally Posted by John13
What does than make men who approach women?
I wish women would approach more.
As long as they're hot. I've had my guy friends say the same thing, then turn around and complain because 'only the fatties keep talking to me'.
Agreed. If a woman is attractive and desirable, she'll never have to approach a man. Ever. The women who do have to approach men are usually the ones who don't have any approaching them, so by default they have to make a move.
I've been approached by attractive women many times and I had to turn down most of them.
So this thread suggests that the men who get approached turn down most women, and the rest do not get approached and/or admit to being bad with signals (which may read as rejection to the women giving them). Honestly, the woman's thread reads similarly and it all explains why few seem to approach/directly initiate romantic interest at all. It does make me wonder how people manage to get together at all.
I think you're hearing a lot of stories by introverted guys approached by extraverted and/or unattractive women. In a more typical sample, the rejection rate would be lower.
But I fit into this site's demographic and could tell similar tales. Monteith-ness when in a good mood - I guess that makes me a safe target. I'm probably good at spotting the obvious signs. It's always awkward for me - I dislike forwardness and superficiality. Still waiting for my first experience with an obvious cougar or someone 'ghetto.' Never approached for casual sex - lol, someone would have to be a very bad judge to try that with me, and anyway I stay out of bars and clubs. The guys who have had that happen to them - I wish I could see pictures, because I assume they look like jocks.
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