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How can someone say very hurtful things to someone and then feel if the apologize that fixes it and we should move on. I don't care if your angry,drunk,high or just lipping off, you said it. I feel it can never be taken back, and that is truly how they feel, and I don't accept them for anything.
People today feel they can say anything to a person and fix it later. But they sure want their feeling heard by all at the time.
I have dissolved ties with people over this if it is a over and over occurrence.
I think I can understand exactly what you mean (having been on the receiving end of such hurtful words, not and never from the one I love romantically, but from immediate biological family members). I have personally been called some of the most horrible, unspeakable and hateful things that I would never even wish on my very worst enemy...
Sometimes, although it doesn't excuse or erase what they say, a person can truly and sincerely feel very remorseful for, and deeply regret and be ashamed of, their earlier harsh and unkind words. If I feel a person is genuinely remorseful and truly sorry for what they did, I will pretty much always be willing to forgive them
I always say one of the most important indicators of a lasting relationship is how conflicts/arguments are handled. You can not take hurtful words back so think before you speak and just don't say them!
I think it depends on the situation. If a person has an abusive pattern where this happens all the time, or is purposefully trying to tear the target down, apologies are next to worthless. If it was a rare thing under unusual circumstances... well, sometimes we all say something we later regret. It doesn't make the hurt any less, but humans make mistakes. Maybe it would be worth letting them prove they're sorry.
The man I dated for two years was like that. He would say things that were hurtful in heat of the moment or he would project on me his feelings for ex wife. That was part of the reason I ended it. I got tired of being told I wasn't good enough, I needed to wear more makeup, I needed to change my clothing style, I needed to spend more time with him, I needed to get out of horses...etc.
The most hurtful thing he said to me ever..when we broke up one of the numerous times. He said word for word "YOUR feelings don't matter if you get your feelings a little bit hurt oh well". I called him on it and he apologized up and down for saying it but that showed in that really in all honesty I was never going to be a priority.
The man I dated for two years was like that. He would say things that were hurtful in heat of the moment or he would project on me his feelings for ex wife. That was part of the reason I ended it. I got tired of being told I wasn't good enough, I needed to wear more makeup, I needed to change my clothing style, I needed to spend more time with him, I needed to get out of horses...etc.
The most hurtful thing he said to me ever..when we broke up one of the numerous times. He said word for word "YOUR feelings don't matter if you get your feelings a little bit hurt oh well". I called him on it and he apologized up and down for saying it but that showed in that really in all honesty I was never going to be a priority.
Yeah there are many reasons they got divorced. Mainly she abandoned her kids to go "find herself". The kids were 10 & 13 at time. Still needing their mom.
I met his family they are all like that.
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