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I'm not perfect - I just don't call people names. And he has shown absolutely no remorse nor has he admitted that there was anything wrong with calling her a "retard."
And someone canceling a date is not the sh t hitting the fan. That's my point. If he loses he cool over something small like this - how would he handle something bigger.
I wasn't referring to you Dew. And honestly calling someone a "retard" is awful. However, considering how he used to be, you have to say he made progress. None of us are perfect. We all have things that we have done or said that we wish we hadn't. He'll grow. But post after post of people telling him what he should have said/ how he should have acted/ handled it, etc, etc, it gets irritating. None of us are perfect, but we sure like to act like it sometimes. Myself included.
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Raena it was such a beautiful night last night to go on a date and i was so sick coming back home from having dinner with family knowing i was supposed to be on a date
It wasn't muggy it was a nice night. I don't know who wants to go on a date in the rain
I'm not perfect - I just don't call people names. And he has shown absolutely no remorse nor has he admitted that there was anything wrong with calling her a "retard."
And someone canceling a date is not the sh t hitting the fan. That's my point. If he loses he cool over something small like this - how would he handle something bigger.
Its bad behavior on both sides. She's obviously oblivious to common courtesy or manners. He was looking forward to it and got his feelings hurt, so said something he shouldn't have. But I don't get why you're focused on this one thing and why you can't see that what she did wasn't right either.
She asked what was my plans and I told her that I was still at work waiting for the rain to stop and then headed to the market
So i knew I was not going back out in the rain but didn't tell her that
So it's not out of the realm of possibility that she thought you weren't doing anything (which you weren't, really) and might like to see her in her band. She had no idea that she was breaking rule #4786: no spontaneity allowed.
You might want to recant your compassion. When many read that he (out of hurt and anger) called her a retard, he might have well have started WW3..I think far too many people are using peoples past posting histories against them. He gets honest and says that he didn't always handle things that well and it gets used against him. So much for not being "perfect" and for being honest. I guess he should have never told the truth about what he used to be like because people have long memories..It's as if people can't change, which is bull sh t. I don't think that he has changed completely (who ever does-that's called self-actualization/ which in all honesty is almost impossible to achieve, unless your mother teresa. However, he has in my opinion made progress.
Its bad behavior on both sides. She's obviously oblivious to common courtesy or manners. He was looking forward to it and got his feelings hurt, so said something he shouldn't have. But I don't get why you're focused on this one thing and why you can't see that what she did wasn't right either.
Because I think there's more to the story. Have you read all of his other threads? And the bottom line is - some people are flakey. It's annoying but not newsworthy. What she did was annoying - but they didn't even know each other. I'd rather find out someone was flakey before I had invested any time in them than later on down the line when I had developed feelings for them.
So it's not out of the realm of possibility that she thought you weren't doing anything (which you weren't, really) and might like to see her in her band. She had no idea that she was breaking rule #4786: no spontaneity allowed.
She thought I lived closed to where she was performing like walking distance.
You might want to recant your compassion. When many read that he (out of hurt and anger) called her a retard, he might have well have started WW3..I think far too many people are using peoples past posting histories against them. He gets honest and says that he didn't always handle things that good and it gets used against him. So much for not being "perfect" and for being honest. I guess he should have never told the truth about what he used to be like because people have long memories..It's as if people can't change, which is bull sh t. I don't think that he has changed completely. However, he has in my opinion made progress.
Yes - but when people post the same thing over and over and don't learn - therein lies the problem. Like I said - he thinks she deserved to be called a retard. He never once said he shouldn't have done it. He basically said - Well, what else was I supposed to do? I couldn't let her get away with it!
Whatever, we had a planned date and she cancelled because I couldn't see when SHE was free on a different night than originally scheduled
OP, online dating seems to be way too stressful for you. Why not take a break, and try IRL dating, instead? Or take a break from dating altogether, and take up meditation? Some major de-stressing is in order. Chronic stress is hazardous to one's health.
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