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Old 07-20-2013, 12:21 AM
 
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I've been exclusively seeing this girl for almost a month now and had been talking for 3 weeks before we started hanging out. We're both 22 and done with college and I'm already working full time and she's moving in 2 weeks to live in a big, major city a few states away (a 3.5 hour drive).

Things ended kind of weird for us this past week. She just stopped talking to me after I took her out on monday and then told me that although she had fun hanging out with me, she thought it was best if we stopped seeing each other . I told her I hope we could still be friends and wished her the best. She didn't care to respond to this.

My question is pretty simple: would you rather cut ties completely with a girl you may never get to see again and are still interested in or would you want to remain friends and initiate some contact every once in awhile?
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Old 07-20-2013, 12:33 AM
 
Location: The Mitten
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In a situation like your, probably nothing at all. If she was moving to a place down the street, well that's different. It can be tough when feelings are not in arms reach.
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Old 07-20-2013, 12:59 AM
 
Location: Bronx
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I've been exclusively seeing this girl for almost a month now and had been talking for 3 weeks before we started hanging out. We're both 22 and done with college and I'm already working full time and she's moving in 2 weeks to live in a big, major city a few states away (a 3.5 hour drive).

Things ended kind of weird for us this past week. She just stopped talking to me after I took her out on monday and then told me that although she had fun hanging out with me, she thought it was best if we stopped seeing each other . I told her I hope we could still be friends and wished her the best. She didn't care to respond to this.

My question is pretty simple: would you rather cut ties completely with a girl you may never get to see again and are still interested in or would you want to remain friends and initiate some contact every once in awhile?
Welcome to the club.
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Old 07-20-2013, 01:33 AM
 
Location: Clovis Strong, NM
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Friends, or nothing at all.
If she wants to go bye-bye, then blow her off and move on to some other thing.

Besides, it's always fascinating to think of stumbling upon them in the near future and see if they lived up to what you thought they would become. Or not.
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Old 07-20-2013, 01:55 AM
 
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if you love some-one...set them free, if she never comes back, she was never yours




she wants to spread her wings and fly into the big city...with nothing weighing her down...
give her a month,,,, then give her a call
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Old 07-20-2013, 02:09 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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cut
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Old 07-20-2013, 05:12 AM
 
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I've been exclusively seeing this girl for almost a month now and had been talking for 3 weeks before we started hanging out. We're both 22 and done with college and I'm already working full time and she's moving in 2 weeks to live in a big, major city a few states away (a 3.5 hour drive).

Things ended kind of weird for us this past week. She just stopped talking to me after I took her out on monday and then told me that although she had fun hanging out with me, she thought it was best if we stopped seeing each other . I told her I hope we could still be friends and wished her the best. She didn't care to respond to this.

My question is pretty simple: would you rather cut ties completely with a girl you may never get to see again and are still interested in or would you want to remain friends and initiate some contact every once in awhile?
say goodbye

you will get a reputation for being a friendzone kinda guy
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Old 07-20-2013, 09:07 AM
 
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I've been exclusively seeing this girl for almost a month now and had been talking for 3 weeks before we started hanging out. We're both 22 and done with college and I'm already working full time and she's moving in 2 weeks to live in a big, major city a few states away (a 3.5 hour drive).

Things ended kind of weird for us this past week. She just stopped talking to me after I took her out on monday and then told me that although she had fun hanging out with me, she thought it was best if we stopped seeing each other . I told her I hope we could still be friends and wished her the best. She didn't care to respond to this.

My question is pretty simple: would you rather cut ties completely with a girl you may never get to see again and are still interested in or would you want to remain friends and initiate some contact every once in awhile?
You're never going to get off the friend's ladder once on it. You will watch her date other guys and it will hurt, and it will keep you from meeting a girl for whom the attraction is mutual. Cut your losses and move on.
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Old 07-20-2013, 09:09 AM
 
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would you rather cut ties completely with a girl you may never get to see again and are still interested in or would you want to remain friends and initiate some contact every once in awhile?
Cut ties until you're over it. After that, remain friends. Remember, friends are still friends and also they are networking opportunities for jobs and they might also be future partners for other (guy) friends of yours.
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Old 07-20-2013, 09:21 AM
 
Location: moved
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Ask her outright: why the change in her demeanor? Is she mentally preparing herself for impending separation and therefore clipping the relationship before it gets serious, not wishing to be involved in something long-distance? Or has she found some one else? I’d base my decision on her answer. And if she waffles, prevaricating or going something noncommittal and evasive, that right there is proof that not even casual friendship is warranted.
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