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I'm someone that doesn't mind sitting in my apartment all day and reading a book. Or leaving my apartment and riding the train all day (I live in Chicago, btw), and walking around the Loop, or just through my neighborhood, or sitting at the Lake (which is my favorite thing to do, but it's a little too cold now ). Then again I'm not someone that avoids social situations all together. I do go out, although I don't have the money to be going out all the time, so I pick and choose what I like to go do (I enjoy live music so that's what I usually do). I am kind of shy, though, but if someone comes up to me, I'll be friendly and usually end up making a new acquaintance. (Also if someone interests me enough, I'll eventually get up the guts to go talk to them.)
I'm not someone that is going to just randomly call people up and invite them to do things. But if they call me I'm willing to go. I just don't feel like I need to do it or be around others all the time.
I really don't have a lot of people that I hang out with. Granted, I did just recently move here, but it was the same way when I was in Tennessee. The fact of the matter is that a lot of my close friends live far away anyway. Also, right now I'm working for a company that is, well, basically me and one other person, and I figure once I get a second job (this primary one is only part time for now) I'll probably meet more people so I'm not too worried. Plus once my financial situation gets more stable, I plan on doing some volunteering somewhere, so that's another avenue.
The question is, does this make me crazy? One of my friends recently said that "no one really wants to be alone," (then again, she's someone that doesn't like to go to the grocery store alone) but as for me, I can tolerate being with myself. As my grandma always said when I was younger, "you can entertain yourself." Am I not living life to the fullest? Or am I just selfish and look out for myself more than anyone else?
Should I just not worry about what my friend is saying?
No, you're definitely not crazy. My friends say the same thing, but the truth is that I am comfortable with myself and inside the property lines of my own home and I am able to amuse myself for days on end. People who are extroverts don't really get it, but whatever...that's why there are so many different types of people. Do whatever makes you happiest - your life will be fuller if you do what soothes your soul rather than someone else's.
I hope that you aren't crazy, because then I am, too. I can spend weeks by myself, going to a movie or nesting in my place. I can go days without hearing a soul, puttering around or doing art or reading. But I also love to go out, to entertain, to be around really wild and irreverant people, laughing until tears fall down my cheeks. I can go a long time without the latter, but need the former to recharge my batteries.
I'm someone that doesn't mind sitting in my apartment all day and reading a book. Or leaving my apartment and riding the train all day (I live in Chicago, btw), and walking around the Loop, or just through my neighborhood, or sitting at the Lake (which is my favorite thing to do, but it's a little too cold now ). Then again I'm not someone that avoids social situations all together. I do go out, although I don't have the money to be going out all the time, so I pick and choose what I like to go do (I enjoy live music so that's what I usually do). I am kind of shy, though, but if someone comes up to me, I'll be friendly and usually end up making a new acquaintance. (Also if someone interests me enough, I'll eventually get up the guts to go talk to them.)
I'm not someone that is going to just randomly call people up and invite them to do things. But if they call me I'm willing to go. I just don't feel like I need to do it or be around others all the time.
I really don't have a lot of people that I hang out with. Granted, I did just recently move here, but it was the same way when I was in Tennessee. The fact of the matter is that a lot of my close friends live far away anyway. Also, right now I'm working for a company that is, well, basically me and one other person, and I figure once I get a second job (this primary one is only part time for now) I'll probably meet more people so I'm not too worried. Plus once my financial situation gets more stable, I plan on doing some volunteering somewhere, so that's another avenue.
The question is, does this make me crazy? One of my friends recently said that "no one really wants to be alone," (then again, she's someone that doesn't like to go to the grocery store alone) but as for me, I can tolerate being with myself. As my grandma always said when I was younger, "you can entertain yourself." Am I not living life to the fullest? Or am I just selfish and look out for myself more than anyone else?
Should I just not worry about what my friend is saying?
great post i will give you some soon.
there is a great song by gnarles barley
"crazy"
no you are not.
there are worse things than being alone.
".....there are worse things than being alone......"
Yeah, like being around someone who wont give you alone time, lol!
That might end up being my scenerio here soon, yikes!
I too, personally, like doing a lot of things alone, most of the time. Shopping, travel, going for a long drive, etc. Occaisionally a friend or family member tagging along is okay, but when I have a choice, its solo.
Its gonna be kinda wierd the next couple of weeks during my class, to be stuck in a hotel room with another potential driver (usually they dont mix male and female in the hotel rooms, which the company pays for) but once you get on the road with your trainer, you get who they feel most qualified to train you, and most of the time, unless youre really annoying to that trainer, they want to keep you as their own partner. Of course, I have no idea why I asked to do team....
I brought that up because Im so used to doing alone, and having someone around 24/7 will definately have its pros and cons.
You need to do whatever makes you happy. If you enjoy being alone then be alone. When you're ready to spend time with a friend you can do that as well. Unless you can enjoy your own company you will never be happy with someone else.
You are fine just the way you are. Don't question your self for doing what you enjoy.
The fact that you do things to entertain your self tells me that your are living life to the fullest.
You are not selfish, however, if you think calling someone and inviting them over would be enjoyable, then give it a try.
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). Then again I'm not someone that avoids social situations all together. I do go out, although I don't have the money to be going out all the time, so I pick and choose what I like to go do (I enjoy live music so that's what I usually do). I am kind of shy, though, but if someone comes up to me, I'll be friendly and usually end up making a new acquaintance. (Also if someone interests me enough, I'll eventually get up the guts to go talk to them.)
