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Kikiki no one is answering this question so far lets take a minimum wage couple. Say as a woman you stash 100bucks more every month or to be more politically correct steal 100bucks monthly & say you got divorced after 30 years you would have 36,000 bucks more in your secret stash plus interest.
I have a friend whose wife did this for a year. He thought she was paying bills. Found out otherwise when she took their daughter wrote him a note, and flew off to Arizona. He got his daughter back and his "wife", soon ex, got a little time behind bars.
I know this post is ancient, but I'll respond anyway. My husband and I married immediately after we finished college. I couldn't find a job my first year out of school and worked as a server so most of my income was tips. When October rolled around that first year I began stashing $3-10 out of my tips every shift--whatever wouldn't be too far off what I usually made. The plan was to use it for Christmas gifts. I surprised husband with the stash sometime in mid-December.
My daughter still has a Credit Union account with a few $1000 in it. The quarterly statements still are coming to our house even though she moved out 6 years ago. I don't know if her now husband knows about it, and I never mention it to her in front of him. To be honest I don't usually mention it to her either, but.......Besides, she makes more than enough $ to support herself.
I've was a SAHM for 10 years or so. Even after that I probably didn't make enough for another 6 years or so to support myself and my kids if something happened. Since we share all accounts it would have been difficult to stash money away from my husband. There was a short period of time when I wished I had done so.
You must have you quoted in order to bother.It says MONTH not week
And, by the way, be nicer. Even if people do misread or make a mistake generally doesn't mean they aren't debating in the best spirit if things. I don't subscribe to the theory that common courtesy doesn't apply just because you are on the internet.
I don't think it is so "black and white" and depends on individual situations. My husband and I have been married for 33 years. He has always been the main wage earner and we have always maintained separate accounts. He allots a "budget" to me for our bills, which I handle and I put some aside for savings for an emergency. He may not always know how much I have, but I don't know how much he has either. This does not bother me, it works for us. I think it is only a problem if one spouse were to have a problem with it. A little reserve fund, especially for us older women is smart, if something happens to our spouse we have immediate funds to draw on.
My ex wife and i had a joint checking account. I dumped my paycheck in it and she paid the bills. When i needed money, i ask for it and she gave it to me. I never knew what was in it because the bills were paid and we had money. When she decided to leave, i asked to see the bank statement. The account had a couple thousand dollars in, which sounded about right.
But....as you mention, she had siphoned off 30k into an account of her own over the years. I never missed it and she used it to fund the escape of her and her boyfriend from me and his wife. I always wondered how many women had an escape fund.
My ex wife and i had a joint checking account. I dumped my paycheck in it and she paid the bills. When i needed money, i ask for it and she gave it to me. I never knew what was in it because the bills were paid and we had money. When she decided to leave, i asked to see the bank statement. The account had a couple thousand dollars in, which sounded about right.
But....as you mention, she had siphoned off 30k into an account of her own over the years. I never missed it and she used it to fund the escape of her and her boyfriend from me and his wife. I always wondered how many women had an escape fund.
Thirty grand!!!
That would never escape my husband's notice, LOL.
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