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Just like the title says: I'm 31, dating a 68 year old guy. In case you wonder and you probably are, i w got 10 fingers, 10 toes, 5.3", 112 lbs, good looking, have 3 degrees, a full time job, own a house and a car, none of it came from the man I'm daying. Before I continue let me say that this is not a sugar daddy situation. He doesn't buy me jewelry, takes me for vacations or on shopping spree. Nothing like that, so please don't think that I'm with him for his money. I'm not.
We've been dating for 2.5 years now. When we first started I was 10 years into a falling marriage and he was in an unhealthy common law relationship with a 36 year old woman who suffered from obsessive compulsive disorder.
Anyhow we really connected, had an unbelievable chemistry despite a huge age difference and both found an escape in each other and were very happy together. I signed a separation agreement with my husband, 1.5 years ago, bought a house and moved out. He was looking for ways to get rid of his girlfriend peacefully, but in the meantime I suffered big time knowing that every night he goes to bed with another woman. He kept on telling me that they are not having sex and she doesn't mean anything to him. But still it was very upsetting and heartbreaking to me.
Because of her he didn't even come to see me on my birthday because it's a holiday and he had to play husband. He said he doesn't love her, but on valentines he got her flowers... And took out for dinner. While I was alone...
I could never call him for help if I needed and one time when my car broke down miles away from home at 11 pm in the middle of nowhere I had to turn to complete strangers for help because he wouldn't put his house situation into jeopardy by going to my rescue. I had to work 6 days a week with my only day off being Sunday when most mechanic shops are closed, yet I had no choice but manage to get my car in for a fix on my brakes. When something happened to his girlfriend's car he drops everything and drives her around to avoid problems with her although she is off Monday and Tuesday.*
Eventually he came up with what he thinks is the only way out and bought her a two level brand new apartment and filled it with brand new furniture because he "couldn't throw her on the street". When I bought my house it took me a while to buy the furniture as I was doing it on my own. It really hurt when he made a comment that it looks like **** because a lot was missing at that time and I had empty rooms and bare walls. It's still not finished, but I do the best I can.
A week ago she finally moved out. He moved in to stay with me. Yesterday I opened his text messages for the first time ever and was shocked to see he texted her the night before something like "you left some laundry at my place, I left it in your locker. Hope you are doing ok. Kiss"
To me it was a slap on the face. I lost it! * I confronted him and he said it wasn't a big deal, just a friendly text. We left the house together, then he came back, picked up all of his stuff and left. I texted him saying that I'm tired of him coming and going and if he wants to go he shouldn't come back. He said I shouldn't have done what I've done and he is innocent. The next day we had a big fight over the phone. He hanged up on me, I came to his house, he didn't open the door. By the way he never let me in his house while I gave him keys to mine.*
Then he sent me an email with 10 conditions I have to meet to be with him. One of them is he wants me to see a specialist about my emotions. So here I am, looking for feedback. He calked me a controller, said that at 68 love is a luxury he can live without. And also said sorry but he has to put himself first.
Accepting this messy story at face value and assuming that you're not making it up, all I can do is shake my head, suggest you re-read what you wrote and then tell me with a straight face that you're neither a masochist nor a woman with absolutely no self-respect at all.
Yes, maybe you do need to see a therapist about your emotions but sure as heck not for HIM and as any sort of condition to be with this prince of princes.
Yes, STT Resident, that's exactly what I was thinking while writing this post! I am a messed up masochist with absolutely no self respect!! I laught when I got the list of conditions from him, some were as ridiculous as cleaning my laundry room and my garage! The rest of the house is OK for him aparently (it's clean and tidy!) The garage is full of Christmas decorations, toys etc and laundry room, well it's a laundry room. And this came from a guy who would leave his dirty plate on the table and walk away after he eats!! And who would lay on the couch, mess up all the cushions and never fix them!!
Anyhow, of course I never considered going to a therapist and showing my face telling the story, they'd put me in a straitjacket!! But suppose I did comply with the list like an idiot. What do I get in return? A 68 year old dude who doesn't care about love so much anymore and puts himself first? LOL
He also wants me to apologize to him for freaking out about the text where he said "Kiss" to his ex!
What a moron I am!!!
Just like the title says: I'm 31, dating a 68 year old guy. In case you wonder and you probably are, i w got 10 fingers, 10 toes, 5.3", 112 lbs, good looking, have 3 degrees, a full time job, own a house and a car, none of it came from the man I'm daying. Before I continue let me say that this is not a sugar daddy situation. He doesn't buy me jewelry, takes me for vacations or on shopping spree. Nothing like that, so please don't think that I'm with him for his money. I'm not.
We've been dating for 2.5 years now. When we first started I was 10 years into a falling marriage and he was in an unhealthy common law relationship with a 36 year old woman who suffered from obsessive compulsive disorder.
Anyhow we really connected, had an unbelievable chemistry despite a huge age difference and both found an escape in each other and were very happy together. I signed a separation agreement with my husband, 1.5 years ago, bought a house and moved out. He was looking for ways to get rid of his girlfriend peacefully, but in the meantime I suffered big time knowing that every night he goes to bed with another woman. He kept on telling me that they are not having sex and she doesn't mean anything to him. But still it was very upsetting and heartbreaking to me.
Because of her he didn't even come to see me on my birthday because it's a holiday and he had to play husband. He said he doesn't love her, but on valentines he got her flowers... And took out for dinner. While I was alone... I could never call him for help if I needed and one time when my car broke down miles away from home at 11 pm in the middle of nowhere I had to turn to complete strangers for help because he wouldn't put his house situation into jeopardy by going to my rescue. I had to work 6 days a week with my only day off being Sunday when most mechanic shops are closed, yet I had no choice but manage to get my car in for a fix on my brakes. When something happened to his girlfriend's car he drops everything and drives her around to avoid problems with her although she is off Monday and Tuesday.*
Eventually he came up with what he thinks is the only way out and bought her a two level brand new apartment and filled it with brand new furniture because he "couldn't throw her on the street". When I bought my house it took me a while to buy the furniture as I was doing it on my own. It really hurt when he made a comment that it looks like **** because a lot was missing at that time and I had empty rooms and bare walls. It's still not finished, but I do the best I can.
A week ago she finally moved out. He moved in to stay with me. Yesterday I opened his text messages for the first time ever and was shocked to see he texted her the night before something like "you left some laundry at my place, I left it in your locker. Hope you are doing ok. Kiss"
To me it was a slap on the face. I lost it! * I confronted him and he said it wasn't a big deal, just a friendly text. We left the house together, then he came back, picked up all of his stuff and left. I texted him saying that I'm tired of him coming and going and if he wants to go he shouldn't come back. He said I shouldn't have done what I've done and he is innocent. The next day we had a big fight over the phone. He hanged up on me, I came to his house, he didn't open the door. By the way he never let me in his house while I gave him keys to mine.*
Then he sent me an email with 10 conditions I have to meet to be with him. One of them is he wants me to see a specialist about my emotions. So here I am, looking for feedback. He calked me a controller, said that at 68 love is a luxury he can live without. And also said sorry but he has to put himself first.
Re-read what you just wrote and try to think about what I put in bold.
Where you came from? (Russia?) Do you presently live in the US?
that guy is such a moron, he really bombed this relationship eh?
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