Is it ok for me to show my weak side in a relationship (people, like)
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Sometimes I keep on wondering why people aren't real in life,they tend to behave like movie stars of love ,where everything is perfect.Is it bad to show my weakest side in a relationship.For example, showing a little anger, criticizing my partner greatly etc.what is your take on this?
I don't understand the fakeness either..
If a person can't accept you at your worst, they don't love you.. doesn't mean being unkind or cruel is acceptable.
Sometimes I keep on wondering why people aren't real in life,they tend to behave like movie stars of love ,where everything is perfect.Is it bad to show my weakest side in a relationship.For example, showing a little anger, criticizing my partner greatly etc.what is your take on this?
this is actually a very good question that comes up frequently when i talk to my male friends. i would say that it is VERY gender-specific.
women are given leeway to show their 'weak side', and men won't really find them any more or less attractive because of it. i mean there are some limits, but in general women are given a wide berth by men to be emotional.
For men? No. Not even maybe. the easiest way to kill any sex in your relationship is to show your weak side. i've had this discussion with a wide variety of men and the story is always the same. Women will find you sexually unattractive if you show any emotional weakness.. it is just in their instincts to do so. No amount of "modern gender equality" sugarcoating has changed this dynamic.
this is actually a very good question that comes up frequently when i talk to my male friends. i would say that it is VERY gender-specific.
women are given leeway to show their 'weak side', and men won't really find them any more or less attractive because of it. i mean there are some limits, but in general women are given a wide berth by men to be emotional.
For men? No. Not even maybe. the easiest way to kill any sex in your relationship is to show your weak side. i've had this discussion with a wide variety of men and the story is always the same. Women will find you sexually unattractive if you show any emotional weakness.. it is just in their instincts to do so. No amount of "modern gender equality" sugarcoating has changed this dynamic.
Yeah there's definitely a double standard there. Women are allowed (even expected) to show weakness and emotion and it actually can make them more attractive in the right setting. Men? No. That turns women off.
I guess it could be argued that women are the only one's allowed to "be themselves" in a relationship...the good, the bad and the ugly sides of her, and her man will tolerate it more or less because "that's just how they are". Men, like it or not, have a role to play in a relationship, almost as if he were a stage actor. To be yourself as a man is to sometimes display weakness/indecisivness/etc when left to your own devices, because men are of course imperfect humans as well. But she can't and doesn't want to see that.
Yeah there's definitely a double standard there. Women are allowed (even expected) to show weakness and emotion and it actually can make them more attractive in the right setting. Men? No. That turns women off.
I guess it could be argued that women are the only one's allowed to "be themselves" in a relationship...the good, the bad and the ugly sides of her, and her man will tolerate it more or less because "that's just how they are". Men, like it or not, have a role to play in a relationship, almost as if he were a stage actor. To be yourself as a man is to sometimes display weakness/indecisivness/etc when left to your own devices, because men are of course imperfect humans as well. But she can't and doesn't want to see that.
Yes.. but i think we both understand that women do have unfair, double-standard expectations they have to deal with -- especially regarding looks or physical fitness.
But yeah, emotionally, there's no question that women set up very clear boundaries that men aren't "supposed" to stray from.
I don't think these habits are really who you are, they are just that, habits. Why would you want to "criticize your girlfriend greatly"? How much anger? I mean, it's fine to not be perfect, but if you have an anger problem, you should deal with it, it shouldn't be on your girlfriend to just take it as part of the deal. I have issues, my bf has issues, that's fine, but we both expect that we are working on them and trying to be better partners. It doesn't mean pretending the issues aren't there, but it does mean taking responsibility for our behavior and trying to heal those issues. It sounds like you're asking if your gf should allow herself to be mistreated because of your "weaknesses" and to that I say no.
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I especially love good comedians, people tell me I should become a comedian all the time because I'm so funny, so dane cook and daniel tosh are some of my heroes because they're hilarious(funnier than me even)
Ok.
I'm calling troll on this guy. Either that, or he's a teenager.
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