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The last few women I came across turned out to be in their early 30's. The volunteer group I started volunteering for has either high schoolers or people much older than I. There are only 9 women close to my age on dating site, who are not a match. And don't even get me started on my bonsai and cycling group, those don't even have women.
There are a few young women in my gym, but they don't appear to be there for conversation.
Honestly you need to focus your attention on something else for a while. Give your constant looking for a woman and wondering why you can't find one mission a vacation. You are trying too hard to find what you think you want, give it a break, go out into the world, do things, focus on the other areas of your life, let the natural flow of real life happen and before you know it someone will cross your path. Then you can figure out if you want to step into your future together or if you want to continue on by yourself until the next someone crosses your path.
You should watch the video and listen to the song "Somebody" by Reba McEntire, really listen to the words.
Join a kayaking or paddle board group or club. A lot of times women join because they don't want to do these kinds of things alone. Any of the non competitive sports or even dances are often top-heavy with single women.
In the meantime, you can have fun getting some exercise and making more friends.
The last few women I came across turned out to be in their early 30's. The volunteer group I started volunteering for has either high schoolers or people much older than I. There are only 9 women close to my age on dating site, who are not a match. And don't even get me started on my bonsai and cycling group, those don't even have women.
There are a few young women in my gym, but they don't appear to be there for conversation.
I know this is really frustrating for you
It's really pretty ironic that in this fast paced digital info age with constant info at our fingertips through twitter, texting, smart phones etc people are having MORE trouble connecting sometimes than ever before.
It's a new world we live in these days, but just know you are NOT the only person having this kind of difficulty.
One of the best ways to get a great new job is through networking, getting help from "who you know".
I think this approach is working better and better in the dating world now.
You have to have a social network and rely on it to help you find new women to date.
Sure, the old go out to the bar and meet someone by striking up a conversation still works sometimes.
But when someone can "vouch" for you, talk you up, sell your good points to women they know personally you might increase your odds a bit.
See, while internet dating has brought a lot of people together, it's also brought all the crazies and weirdo's out of the wood work too.
Consequently, after a while many people, especially women, are reluctant to trust anything somebody says online. This has basically ruined it for a lot of great people who get passed over out of that sense of caution and mistrust.
So, talk to all the people you actually know. Tell them you are looking to meet a new woman/women to date. Basically, network!
And even more importantly, don't give up. Don't make this the whole focus of your life obviously, but keep an open mind and be aware of taking advantage of any opportunity that comes your way.
Hey, maybe one of those older women you volunteer with has a daughter? Remember, tell everyone you know you are looking
The last few women I came across turned out to be in their early 30's. The volunteer group I started volunteering for has either high schoolers or people much older than I. There are only 9 women close to my age on dating site, who are not a match. And don't even get me started on my bonsai and cycling group, those don't even have women.
There are a few young women in my gym, but they don't appear to be there for conversation.
You need to take a visit to a college town. Hang out at the restaurants and pubs.
When I was that age, I was busy paying off student loans. My life revolved around working and trying not to spend a lot of money (so I could pay off those loans). Needless to say, I didn't get out much or date much in my mid 20s. I don't know how much things have changed, but I imagine a lot of women that age are doing the same.
Maybe you could just focus on yourself for a while and occasionally do singles events. Meetup has a lot of different clubs on it including singles clubs to meet people. But you are young still and have time--so don't fret and don't worry. I think in your later 20s, your dating pool will improve as women will have more money themselves at that time (and can afford to go out, etc).
You need to take a visit to a college town. Hang out at the restaurants and pubs.
OP has just spent the last 3 years living in a college town. IIRC, he has one year to go, before transferring out of the South to the West Coast, where his prospects should improve significantly.
Go to coffeeshops and chat up the barristas and patrons. Take a dance class, even if you're not a good dancer: salsa, swing, folk dancing, whatever they have in your town. If you feel awkward, use that as a conversation opener. "I'm really not very good at this, I just wanted to try something new." Great opening line! Join a Chi Gong or yoga class at your gym. Be the friendly guy (not the on-the-make guy, but the nice, friendly, go-to guy). Ask someone as she's leaving, "Do you get this 'Chi' thing? What's it supposed to be, like electrical energy or something?" Or "That yoga posture today was really uncomfortable. How did you do with it? I never knew I need so much stretching!"
Bonzai seems like a good choice. Too bad it didn't work out. Maybe try a cooking class or some other gardening-related class? I think you've made a good start, OP. These things don't always work out immediately. It's not a guaranteed, instant fix. Often people have to keep trying, move around through different groups, and be patient.
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