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Old 11-12-2007, 09:21 AM
 
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What are the chances of a straight male who has more female friends(strictly platonic, no romance) than male friends getting a girlfriends and later getting married and not having marital problems? I ask because I never thought having alot of female friends were a big deal until I thought about marriage.
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Old 11-12-2007, 11:35 AM
 
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That's hard to answer because some females are ok with their SOs having women friends, some aren't. The question can be thrown back at you: if your SO had a lot of male friends compared to female, how would you feel? Unless you are in that situation, it's hard to get clarity.

I personally had an equal amount prior to marriage; once I got married, however, I decided to see less of my male friends and contact them via email. They were ok with this as many of them had relationships already.
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Old 11-12-2007, 11:38 AM
 
Location: southern california
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relating with either sex is good. it is the level of health in the relationships that determines the healthiness of the person contemplating marriage. not the volume of relationships or the gender. boundaries and self care have much to do with relationship health.
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Old 11-12-2007, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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When searching for that perfect mate for marriage, just make sure you NOT date people who are the jealous type. That way, you can keep all your female friends, but just make sure everything you say and do are above-board and you never, ever give your wife a reason to be upset that you have a lot of female friends.
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Old 11-13-2007, 09:02 AM
 
Location: in drifts of snow wherever you go
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What are the chances of a straight male who has more female friends(strictly platonic, no romance) than male friends getting a girlfriends and later getting married and not having marital problems? I ask because I never thought having alot of female friends were a big deal until I thought about marriage.

chances are slim, unless the single women are all lesbians.
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Old 10-05-2008, 01:52 AM
 
Location: Upland, CA
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It really just depends on the persons involved. Personally, almost all of my friends are women, and I would not marry someone that would not let us hang out. Most women are accepting of this if you let it be known upfront, especially if they are longtime friends. The only time I think to be worried about it is if its "new different sex" friends that just randomly appear.....
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Old 10-05-2008, 02:03 AM
 
Location: Belle Vernon, PA
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I have mostly female friends 2 of whom I was "fwb" with one ex didnt like that at all the other didnt care, it just depends what kind of person you're with
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Old 10-05-2008, 10:16 AM
 
Location: St. Joseph Area
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Until my friends started getting married I was about half and half. After they got married however, I limited my contact with female friends to email. It just felt a little strange, unless I was friends with the husband too. If I were married, I'd feel uneasy talking to my female friends outside of email, even if my wife were okay with it. Just my personal opinion.
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Old 10-05-2008, 12:00 PM
 
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I'd like to have a few female friends just to have a different perspective of things from a woman's point of view.
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Old 10-05-2008, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in Texas
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What are the chances of a straight male who has more female friends(strictly platonic, no romance) than male friends getting a girlfriends and later getting married and not having marital problems? I ask because I never thought having alot of female friends were a big deal until I thought about marriage.
If a woman is secure with herself and the relationship, there shouldn't be a problem. If she does not trust you, your life will be miserable. There actually are women out there to which this would not pose a problem.
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