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Old 08-08-2013, 09:15 PM
 
Location: St. Louis
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I like when a man introduces himself, tells me what about my profile he found interesting, and its always nice if he includes a nice compliment (beautiful, gorgeous, pretty is preferable. Sexy is alright but it gets him the side eye for a little bit)

I always reply to men who approach me in this manner even if it's just to talk. It's those who simply say "hey" or "u r hawt i lyke ur bobz i bet u r gud at sekz" that don't get a reply
I agree with this but I think that sometimes the compliment can backfire unless it's really light. Something like, "Hey I like your pic" is usually fine. This from a woman who adores compliments but they can be taken wrong. I like it when he mentions something from my profile and then says something about himself in that context, like, "I see you love to travel. What kind of trips do you like to take--mountain or beach? I love to go hiking in the mountains myself." That way she can start to get a picture of the two of you together on a romantic mountain hike in Jamaica.

So, keep it short and simple. Start with a mild compliment, mention something from her profile, ask a question about it and then add something about yourself in relation to that. That's it. The question is so she'll be able to answer you back. It's too easy for her to not answer if you don't do that.
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Old 08-08-2013, 09:22 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Simple talk is probably the best way to go. Id introduce myself briefly and say that XYZ caught my attention in their profile, along with attractivness shown by the pics. I wouldnt overthink it at all.
I agree with this.

Simple.

I always gave the guy a nice compliment. Like "I think you are very handsome. I love your smile."

Or "Interesting profile."
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Old 08-08-2013, 09:29 PM
 
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This is slightly OT, but there was a girl on Christian Mingle whose profile indicated that she cannot receive emails or IM, indicating to me that she is not a subscriber. Still she suggests to send her a message with how she can contact you otherwise. I am relatively new to this, but to me there doesn't appear to be any way to contact a non-subscriber on Christian Mingle with a specific message, only smiles, cards or sparks.
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Old 08-08-2013, 09:41 PM
 
Location: Illinois
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Always show her you have actually read her individual profile. Don't send the same message to every woman - it's obvious. Let her know something about yourself that isn't generic/already in your profile. Write at least three full sentences using proper grammar and punctuation - some people are real sticklers for this and will automatically rule you out if you use "text speak" or write one long run on sentence. I almost never respond to "Hey" or "What's up."
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Old 08-08-2013, 09:46 PM
 
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This is slightly OT, but there was a girl on Christian Mingle whose profile indicated that she cannot receive emails or IM, indicating to me that she is not a subscriber. Still she suggests to send her a message with how she can contact you otherwise. I am relatively new to this, but to me there doesn't appear to be any way to contact a non-subscriber on Christian Mingle with a specific message, only smiles, cards or sparks.
I am a little suspicious. One thing to be aware of, 419 scammers will try to get you to move to e-mail or other means of chat outside of a dating site. So please be cautious if you contact someone outside of the site's communications means. She might just be using it for free... but then again, it might be someone trying to scam you.
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