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get yourself to the shelter no matter what do not go to a friends house . He will find you at a friends house and he will be angry because you left the house without his knowledge . Im telling you he will hurt you if you stay with friend . GO TO THE WOMEN"S SHELTER . take your son and leave today . Do not wait .
Get rid of this dead weight NOW! I don't feel sorry for you because you should have dumped him way back when you were still dating because of the horrendous things he did back then. But, now that you've gotten yourself in this mess, don't waste another day with this a-hole...a-hole isn't even the word, it's an entire page of words to describe him.
Did you have a bad childhood & was your dad a loser or just not around? I really hate seeing this continuous pattern of women falling for these no-good men because of their bad childhoods, their mother put up with their loser dad, etc., etc., etc. Why does history have to repeat itself?!
Your husband contrinbutes absolutely nothing positive to life. He's not worth the $h!t in the toilet. Get rid of his @s$. Why you have to ask strangers if you should stay or go is beyond me. Stay safe & on your toes! Just because he was never violent in the past, doesn't mean he'll never hit you. There's a first for everything.
We do not have any money now. He has basically spent it all. He made us move away from my family to an expensive area and then refused to get a job. I supported us and paid for our apartment, furniture, and car (which we have as a loan in both of our names DOH!), but at the same time he refused to get a job. He did not start to make any money at all until about 6 months after we moved. He started his own business but it is not profitable yet. He also puts all of the money he makes into a business account which does not have my name on it. Our bills are paid by me. I am supposed to shift all of my money over to our joint account. At this stage there is nothing there. If I had been alone I would have saved at least $80,000 by now. He originally took my $30,000 three years ago to invest into his business. That was lost along with his money and he is not apologetic, he acts like it is nothing. I worked hard for 2 years to save that money. Anyway, to make a long story short, I feel that I stay out of fear. I walk on tip toes and basically try not to say anything now, because his reaction is either an outburst, or something negative. I am studying now and when I do well (I get the highest grades in the class) he tells me it is thanks to him (weird). He will actually say things like, "you're doing better than your classmates because they do not have a husband like me." Also, he says I am doing well because I do not work but my classmates do. I actually work full-time, but from home. Anyway, I work full-time and I am almost entirely responsible for our son, so I think I work. It's just comments like these I hear all the time. Of course, for every negative comment he will sometimes make a positive comment, but usually I do not feel that he is sincere. I feel that he thinks I am stupid and he is just taking advantage of me.
Please be strong and leave him. All he does is take from you and gives you nothing. It will only get worse. He is a lazy user. You basically are enabling him to be an *******. Please respect yourself and leave. You don't need him!
Thanks. I am planning to go to a hotel and then to another apartment.
Most hotels require credit cards even if you have cash. You might want to stay with a friend he doesn't know about or go to a women's shelter to wait out the initial storm.
I have been married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old son. When I met my husband, he basically manipulated me to get me to marry him. He lied about many things - his age, his profession, his income, etc. While we dated and after we were married, he visited dating and porn sites, gave out his real phone number and email address to people, and exchanged photos with people. I do not know if he met up with anyone in person, but I often felt that he did. We had chemistry and when he was nice he was very nice, so I stayed with him. Even though he was often manipulative and prone to temper tantrums. He bullied me into giving him all my money ($30,000), he bullied me into telling him I loved him (he actually asked me if I loved him, and when I did not answer he began to flirt with someone else... we were at a restaurant). When he is mad at me (and it can be over just about anything) he will give me the cold shoulder for the whole day. I am always blamed for it. It is a very uncomfortable environment a lot of the time. Now, a few years later, I have found out that he still visits porn sites basically whenever I am out. He has a lot of work to do but he will sit online and watch porn. He has a fake email address, but I am not sure if he has written to anyone. A few weeks ago we got a letter from a local college, banning him from ever visiting the college campus again; they said he had approached girls inappropriately. He denied it. So, my situation is that I have all of these skeletons in the closet: his temper, his womanizing, his porn addiction, his potential cheating, his controlling nature. On the other hand, he is not physically abusive, he loves our son and our son loves him. I am not sure that he will be nice to our son as he grow up, though. He already does not want me to spend money on our son, and sometimes he will shout at him. Sometimes he is very nice to me but I am not sure if he is faking it. Basically he needs me because I pay the bills and arrange most of our affairs. I honestly do not know what he would do if we separated, but I would be physically and financially fine if we did. Sometimes we have good times though, and I cannot decide if it is worthwhile for me to stay for those good times. Most of the time I feel either unhappy or indifferent. He is not willing to discuss our relationship or work on anything. He denies any wrongdoing on his part, and blames me for being nervous and yapping at him.
You showed very bad judgment in making a baby with this man. You owe it to your son to "stick it out" until he is 18 years old even though this environment is not the greatest, it is still infinitely better to raise a son with to parents present rather than alone. Especially if he is a good and loving father.
You showed very bad judgment in making a baby with this man. You owe it to your son to "stick it out" until he is 18 years old even though this environment is not the greatest, it is still infinitely better to raise a son with to parents present rather than alone. Especially if he is a good and loving father.
20yrsinBranson
EEK this is TERRIBLE advice. Keep on reading, she is in a terrible situation and should not stay!
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