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Originally Posted by bebe182
I personally haven't remained friends with any of my exes. I wish them all well, and have no animosity towards them, but I think staying in contact with them would feel a bit awkward to me.
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I share this viewpoint.
Although most of my relationships end as well as they can, I stil have a hard time being friends with ex's. I guess it depends on what led to the break up, and how they handled it.
The thing about facebook, is that it creates connestions with people that werent possible 10-20 years ago. Before FB, when people broke up, unless you had mutial friends or talked on the phone, I think most the time people faded away, and most likely didnt associate with most ex's.
But now that everyone connects through FB, those pesky ex's (haha) stick around.
IMO, i is just a shift in social norms, and the causal nature of hooking up.
I would date someone who had ex's as FB friends, but if I got the idea they were still emotionally attached to them, I would probably bail pretty quick. And IME, this does happen, and it does create problems sometimes for future relationships.
In the end, you have to read the warning signs. They are usually there, but you have to choose to see them.