Is it normal for someone to remain friends with an ex on Facebook?

[rego00123]

totally depends on the reason.
if i wasn't able to remain strictly friends with them in person i wouldn't be keeping them around on facebook either.

i know a ton of people who keep people around so they can get their creeper on just to laugh or fume at how bad or good someone is doing

same rules apply for me remaining friends with an ex in persona as they do on social media. any left over relationship attachment or not dealt with personal emotions, stay away please.

...but i mean who am i to judge how you want to use facebook? use it how you see fit for yourself

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by bson1257

Would it concern you if the person you were dating still talked to and remained friends with an ex on Facebook?

No. My SO has several exes on his page, and I have two people I dated. It's not a big deal.

I'd be more concerned if he bashed every ex he had. Then I'd know he has a problem with women, is unable to end a relationship gracefully, and is unwilling to admit his own part in a relationship that went south.

[nokiddin]

there's something natural about letting your exes drift away into your history, your past, and sometimes never to be heard from again. i think it makes future run ins more surprising and entertaining too.

i don't have fb but i would think if my exes where on my friends list, it would kind of feel like i had framed pictures of my exes sitting around my place. no thanks.

[AverageGuy2006]

Originally Posted by bebe182

I personally haven't remained friends with any of my exes. I wish them all well, and have no animosity towards them, but I think staying in contact with them would feel a bit awkward to me.

I share this viewpoint.
Although most of my relationships end as well as they can, I stil have a hard time being friends with ex's. I guess it depends on what led to the break up, and how they handled it.

The thing about facebook, is that it creates connestions with people that werent possible 10-20 years ago. Before FB, when people broke up, unless you had mutial friends or talked on the phone, I think most the time people faded away, and most likely didnt associate with most ex's.
But now that everyone connects through FB, those pesky ex's (haha) stick around.
IMO, i is just a shift in social norms, and the causal nature of hooking up.
I would date someone who had ex's as FB friends, but if I got the idea they were still emotionally attached to them, I would probably bail pretty quick. And IME, this does happen, and it does create problems sometimes for future relationships.

In the end, you have to read the warning signs. They are usually there, but you have to choose to see them.