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My wife and I were talking about this earlier and I thought it would be interesting to see what people here thought.
Here's the situation: A married couple is about to have a baby, say their 3rd or 4th. Complications in the delivery put the couple in a "child or mother" scenario. Doctors can only save one and they have to choose who will live. If you were in this situation, what decision would you choose and why?
Without a doubt, I would choose my wife. I already have three kids, and it's not fair to them to continue on without their mother. They need a mom, not necessarily another sibling. Also, I have the years an emotional experiences invested in my wife. Losing a child at birth would not be easy, but losing a wife would be even worse.
My wife noted that it is likely highly religious couples who are likely to choose the child over the mother. Their objection to abortion would likely shape their decision. We are a pretty conservative couple ourselves, and pro-life. I draw a big distinction between the choice to make an abortion, which is a deliberate decision to terminate the life of the unborn child, and the choice presented in this scenario which places a couple who does not want to lose their child in a situation where they must choose child or mother. Big difference. It's no more an abortion than choosing the child is suicide for the mother if the couple chooses to save the child. I do ask that this not turn into a pro-life vs pro-abortion thread.
So what say you?
PS: Mods, I feel this thread is best suited for this relationships because it speaks to the bond between a married couple and how they apply that to ethical dilemmas.
My wife and I were talking about this earlier and I thought it would be interesting to see what people here thought.
Here's the situation: A married couple is about to have a baby, say their 3rd or 4th. Complications in the delivery put the couple in a "child or mother" scenario. Doctors can only save one and they have to choose who will live. If you were in this situation, what decision would you choose and why?
Without a doubt, I would choose my wife. I already have three kids, and it's not fair to them to continue on without their mother. They need a mom, not necessarily another sibling. Also, I have the years an emotional experiences invested in my wife. Losing a child at birth would not be easy, but losing a wife would be even worse.
My wife noted that it is likely highly religious couples who are likely to choose the child over the mother. Their objection to abortion would likely shape their decision. We are a pretty conservative couple ourselves, and pro-life. I draw a big distinction between the choice to make an abortion, which is a deliberate decision to terminate the life of the unborn child, and the choice presented in this scenario which places a couple who does not want to lose their child in a situation where they must choose child or mother. Big difference. It's no more an abortion than choosing the child is suicide for the mother if the couple chooses to save the child. I do ask that this not turn into a pro-life vs pro-abortion thread.
So what say you?
PS: Mods, I feel this thread is best suited for this relationships because it speaks to the bond between a married couple and how they apply that to ethical dilemmas.
Too tough of a question for me to answer. I asked my wife and she said the mother should live.
It is a good ethical question though.
Probably could either go here or Parenting or even Other Topics.
My wife and I were talking about this earlier and I thought it would be interesting to see what people here thought.
Here's the situation: A married couple is about to have a baby, say their 3rd or 4th. Complications in the delivery put the couple in a "child or mother" scenario. Doctors can only save one and they have to choose who will live. If you were in this situation, what decision would you choose and why?
Without a doubt, I would choose my wife. I already have three kids, and it's not fair to them to continue on without their mother. They need a mom, not necessarily another sibling. Also, I have the years an emotional experiences invested in my wife. Losing a child at birth would not be easy, but losing a wife would be even worse.
My wife noted that it is likely highly religious couples who are likely to choose the child over the mother. Their objection to abortion would likely shape their decision. We are a pretty conservative couple ourselves, and pro-life. I draw a big distinction between the choice to make an abortion, which is a deliberate decision to terminate the life of the unborn child, and the choice presented in this scenario which places a couple who does not want to lose their child in a situation where they must choose child or mother. Big difference. It's no more an abortion than choosing the child is suicide for the mother if the couple chooses to save the child. I do ask that this not turn into a pro-life vs pro-abortion thread.
So what say you?
PS: Mods, I feel this thread is best suited for this relationships because it speaks to the bond between a married couple and how they apply that to ethical dilemmas.
Whew, you like those cans of worms don't you, lol??
The good news is, this is not a scenario that happens much at all any more, as in, a very tiny percentage of the time - thank goodness.
As a mom with other kids to raise it would be a gut wrenching decision. I think my husband would choose me, hands down though.
The mother. If a a 3rd or 4th child is wanted badly enough, then they could always try again. Plus leaving multiple children without a mother will affect them more than the loss of a sibling they never knew.
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) . It belongs in another forum at the very least. . .
