I think my BF took a video of me... (wife, man, spouse)
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The fact you are okay with staying with him, and him having his phone out at all during sex tells me you have no respect for yourself. Two years or not you deserve better. It's time to move on. I mean he was looking at his phone. He had no interest in pleasing you in any way it's all about him, and his wants and needs.
This. And also: Lilac's post. It doesn't matter if you're wrong about him taking a photo of you. The fact is he's not into you. He's not even that into sex with you. Why would you want to commit to someone who isn't into you? If he says he loves you, he's lying, and he's faking being in love. I saw a guy do that once, with a woman he'd married to get his residency visa. She was starry-eyed about him, but he was just going through the motions, saying what she wanted to hear, but his heart wasn't in it, it was obvious to anyone who wasn't starry-eyed about him.
You're getting really good advice on this thread, OP. I strongly suggest you take it, and dump the jerk.
Not so simple...we've been together for almost 2 years, I'm still in love with him, and we were actually making plans to move in together soon (a thing I'm not sure I should do after this whole mess).
> That's for the future and yeah I've learned my lesson.
If I ever see his phone a mile from me when I'm naked, I'm just gonna drop everything and tell him that if he ever wants to sleep with me again, he better keep his god damned phone far far away from me.
But what do I do about the video that (possibly) already exists?
I mean, God only knows how many people he could of shown/sent it to this past week...
How do I know it really exists/existed in the first place?
I mean, what if I AM wrong?
You are in for a lot of sadness.
He is obviously lying and you are too understanding.
Really. I'd probably knock it out of his cloddish, moronic, brutish, self-absorbed, assholic hands and halfway across the room. Only movie that would be on there is a flying view of the ceiling.
This thread was worth it just for the opportunity to expand our vocabulary that it provided!
How do you all people know she is not just being paranoid? Don't follow advice from city data, they advice you to break up for the smallest thing. If it was up to them we would all be single now.
First off, was the phone even pointed towards you. That would be a very strange position to put a phone, and you should notice. Also, you could just check his video folder. If both of the above are negative, then try to relax a little bit more. He likely didn't film you.
Imagine if you are wrong. How would it feel like for him if you just broke up. If you can prove you are right, then feel free to break up with him.
How do you all people know she is not just being paranoid? Don't follow advice from city data, they advice you to break up for the smallest thing. If it was up to them we would all be single now.
First off, was the phone even pointed towards you. That would be a very strange position to put a phone, and you should notice. Also, you could just check his video folder. If both of the above are negative, then try to relax a little bit more. He likely didn't film you.
Imagine if you are wrong. How would it feel like for him if you just broke up. If you can prove you are right, then feel free to break up with him.
Whether he photog'ed her or not is irrelevant. He's checking for messages and fiddling with his phone right in the middle of sex. And he's done that several times. Nobody needs a guy like that. She can do so much better. He's just not into her, he's only using her to get off.
Whether he photog'ed her or not is irrelevant. He's checking for messages and fiddling with his phone right in the middle of sex. And he's done that several times. Nobody needs a guy like that. She can do so much better. He's just not into her, he's only using her to get off.
Um.. people are not perfect. Breaking up with someone due to one issue, is ridiculous.
No, the mature thing to do is not immediately hit the break up button, but talk about it.
I know very very few people that would even THINK about their cell phone in a time like that.
Moving forward, if the bf ever grabbed his cell phone while being intimate, STOP being intimate, get dressed and leave. IMMEDIATELY. No fun for the d-bag. And then communicate that if he ever touches his phone again during private time, the relationship would absolutely be OVER.
Seriously, sorry, but the bf here is a d-bag for even touching his phone.
It amazes me the things some people get away with.
Some of these are pretty good. They're worth re-posting.
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