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Old 08-15-2013, 06:04 AM
 
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It sounds like her weight gain is primarily your fault. If you are eating together and eating the same things which are causing you weight gain, they are doing the same thing to her!
Anything can be eaten in moderation. I each MUCH healthier around her. I eat my less healthy meals at work during the day.

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Old 08-15-2013, 06:32 AM
 
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How do you know she gained 10 lbs? I have GOT to hear this.
Yup. Notice how he conveniently chose not to answer?
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Old 08-15-2013, 06:57 AM
 
Location: NC
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you juicing brah?

seriously though, if she has gained muscle, you do realize that will add to her weight
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Old 08-15-2013, 06:58 AM
 
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Yup. Notice how he conveniently chose not to answer?
Uh because there are a million posts and I have a life and am posting from my phone?

If you must know how i know her weight when we are at the gym and she goes to weight herself and goes "wow I was just 120"

Or when she weighs herself before we shower and she gets in and tells me..

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Old 08-15-2013, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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again, enjoy your gf, and don't let her appearance bother you, because chances are, she will not be with you long; given her young age.
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Old 08-15-2013, 08:32 AM
 
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Anything can be eaten in moderation. I each MUCH healthier around her. I eat my less healthy meals at work during the day.

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Do you know how fun it is to eat the same things as your SO and watch them chow down while you get maybe five bites before hitting your calorie limit? I do. It SUCKS. I am five feet tall and my husband is six feet tall (and I am busting my ass just to get down to 118). We rarely even eat the same meals anymore because it's too difficult. There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend's weight, but if TEN pounds on someone who is still at a normal weight is this much of a deal to you, it's probably time to rethink the relationship.
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Old 08-15-2013, 08:38 AM
 
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I think people make the assumption, because it's obviously an issue that bothers you or you wouldn't have made a thread about it in the first place.

I don't see where anyone is getting mad. You seem to be getting defensive and making it a joke though, that's a bit confusing. What's with the "moar"? LOL that is weird. The fact that you want to make other women mad and enjoy it says a lot about you, though.

If you really love her and you wouldn't leave her over it, then the number on the scale doesn't matter. Just focus on being healthy together, and that's all that that matters, right? If she's not happy with her weight, she'll handle it. Just be there and support her and it will fall into place. Otherwise, then you are unhappy with her weight and obviously it's becoming a dealbreaker for you. It's not that complicated. It either is, or it isn't. You either get over it and be happy with her, or you aren't.

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Do you know how fun it is to eat the same things as your SO and watch them chow down while you get maybe five bites before hitting your calorie limit? I do. It SUCKS. I am five feet tall and my husband is six feet tall (and I am busting my ass just to get down to 118). We rarely even eat the same meals anymore because it's too difficult. There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend's weight, but if TEN pounds on someone who is still at a normal weight is this much of a deal to you, it's probably time to rethink the relationship.
Yeah this is my situation. If she is complaining about a weight gain, she can track on something like myfitnesspal. It is really helpful. If she is looking to you Dan to help her lose, suggest something like that.

My husband is almost 6'2" - he will suggest a meal that is like, 800 calories - that could be not even a third of his daily intake! Easy for him. That is almost my whole day! He thinks it's no big deal and doesn't get why I have to turn it down. DUH! 1200 is pretty much my max and barely 5'1" myself.
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Old 08-15-2013, 08:40 AM
 
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Do you know how fun it is to eat the same things as your SO and watch them chow down while you get maybe five bites before hitting your calorie limit? I do. It SUCKS. I am five feet tall and my husband is six feet tall (and I am busting my ass just to get down to 118). We rarely even eat the same meals anymore because it's too difficult. There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend's weight, but if TEN pounds on someone who is still at a normal weight is this much of a deal to you, it's probably time to rethink the relationship.
Lol! It's not THAT big of a deal! I never said I was dumping her over it. Just wondering if there is anything I can do before it turns into 30 or 40!

I can promise you, eating how I do is NOT enjoyable either. Every day by noon I am on my FOURTH meal. I eat about half my food and just stare at it bloated and full but make myself eat it because I know that food is stopping me from being where I want to be.

If I ate "whatever" I wanted I would be 165 lbs instead of 215.

I look much better at 215 than 165, though the diet sucks.

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Old 08-15-2013, 08:45 AM
 
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I don't think there's anything you CAN do. You can't make a person do or not do something, be or not be a certain weight.
It's up to them. Still, even if you DO say something - there's no guarantee.
It's a crapshoot. There's no way of knowing for sure what she'll look like when she's older. Maybe she'll be more motivated when she's older. Or maybe not? I know some people who are really motivated when they are younger; you think they'll be forever then. Then pow one day you see them and it's like WTF happened.

Then there are people you see, well this one lady she's huge and you think that's the way it is.
Then the next year she got motivated, she lost over 100 lbs and she runs marathons, it's like wow.
And sometimes a woman has kids and it changes her. Then another woman has kids and she remains tiny.
Honestly you can't control it really, or do or say anything the guarantees you that she will remain a certain way.
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Old 08-15-2013, 08:46 AM
 
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If she's working out and eating healthy, her BMI is normal, then the weight gain is most likely good. Women have more fat than men and like others said, at 19 years old, she's in the final stages of maturing into a woman. She could even be growing taller (when is the last time she measured her height)? Her body may continue to change into her mid 20s.

Another factor... women's weight changes with her menstruation and can also change if a women goes on or changes her birth control. It's fluid retention in those cases.

You also mentioned she weighed herself on a gym scale. I don't think those are required to be calibrated by the state. Excessive use can knock it out of calibration. She's better off tracking her weight with her doctor.

My point is, her weight gain could be anything from fluid, to the time or month, to gaining muscle. Given her active lifestyle and healthy habits, it's more likely natural, normal, and healthy.
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