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She would probably have a harder time. Because the number of men who share her general level of intelligence AND who are kind, generous, responsible and stable would be even fewer than if she were only aiming for intelligent ones.
I just don't believe you can single out one attribute and make a blanket statement that "it's harder to find the right man...because I'm smart." There are too many other variables that can really alter the result. The biggest is looks and physical attractiveness. A smart knockout will have no problem finding love. How about a rich girl?
Will a smarter woman be pickier? Will she decide love is not worth the compromise? Or maybe because she is intelligent she will realize all relationships are a compromise so at some point she has to settle? Maybe she falls in love with a loser and can't see or think straight.
Honestly I think this is something people say to make themselves feel better when they are alone.
All the intelligent/gorgeous women I knew in college went for the same type of guys that all the other women did. I wish it were true that intelligent women are super picky and hold out for intelligent, refined men.
My ex-girlfriend posted this on her Facebook timeline. I will admit that her intelligence is one of the things that attracted me to her, and the fact that she's cute helped too.
I just don't believe you can single out one attribute and make a blanket statement that "it's harder to find the right man...because I'm smart." There are too many other variables that can really alter the result. The biggest is looks and physical attractiveness. A smart knockout will have no problem finding love. How about a rich girl?
Will a smarter woman be pickier? Will she decide love is not worth the compromise? Or maybe because she is intelligent she will realize all relationships are a compromise so at some point she has to settle? Maybe she falls in love with a loser and can't see or think straight.
Honestly I think this is something people say to make themselves feel better when they are alone.
Smart guys who are only moderately attractive learn this very early on. I think even smart women will wait MUCH longer before they settle than most guys, then they realize that the guy that hit on her 10 years ago who was not that bad but that she rejected had settled a long time ago and is not going to dump his decade long wife/gf for her.
If she is intelligent, in the sense that she's highly educated and eruditish/snobbish, then this generalization is true. What man wants a partner that's constantly correcting him, fixing his grammar, or engaging in some other pseudo-superior behavior?
If a woman is intelligent (and the definition of this is debate-able), and she has problems either finding a relationship or staying in a healthy, long term one, then there are probably other issues at play.
My ex-girlfriend posted this on her Facebook timeline. I will admit that her intelligence is one of the things that attracted me to her, and the fact that she's cute helped too.
My ex-girlfriend posted this on her Facebook timeline. I will admit that her intelligence is one of the things that attracted me to her, and the fact that she's cute helped too.
Agree? Disagree? Thoughts?
I do agree this can be true.
But it's worth adding that I think this is because highly highly intelligent people in general, but women in particular, can seem aloof and come off as arrogant sometimes, even when they aren't. And even when they are more open and approachable some guys just don't know how to talk to them, so they don't even try.
Maybe, I have found that the kinkier you are the harder it is to find someone. I think smart women are less likely to settle for dumb guys than a smart guy is willing to settle for a dumb girl.
This is true if you are a man. Much easier for a woman.
As to the original question, intelligence is subjective and not measurable, so I don't see her point.
Good point, right man, right woman, either way it's hard for everybody. It's even harder when you think in terms of "right" or "the one", as if there's only one perfect mate out there somewhere, which I don't believe there is.
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