Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Even when she is my type I hate it because it's hard to get something started from "Hi, how are you" That reply has now starting to be deleted because so many people have no clue on how to start a conversation. That reply is nothing but a "original flirt" since someone actually typed it and hit send.
Now I know I am not the only online who received a "Hi, How are you" as a "initial message to their profile right???
So just say "fine", thanks for asking or something. At least she is contacting you. Maybe she used to write longer more well-thought out messages but got tired of them being ignored, so she figured she'd try just a generic opener until she knows the guy is interested. You sure seem to nit-pick a lot, IMO.
There is no written rule, it's petty, uptight and bitter people that make an issue out of it. If a nice and interesting to me woman sent me a message of "hi" I would respond and not get wrapped around the axel! Why get annoyed? Don't you want to meet someone? Getting annoyed and deleting/blocking them for that is rediculous.
One could spend a few minutes throughly reading someones profile. The write out a full thought out message (3 minutes):
"Hi, I see you like to cook, and you enjoy sushi. I cook as well, as I have been cooking since I was 9. I like long walks on the beach and the smell of fresh cut grass. I see you are a hockey fan, were those playoffs not the most insane hockey you have ever seen ? "
And then.... crickets.
Annnnnnnd they disnt even read the message, they spend 2 seconds looking at your picture, and DELETE. Not even a profile review.
"Hi, how are you?" is a conversation starter.
i was just gong to post to say that if an initial message doesn't include evidence that he read my profile, that is minus one point. However, I do respond personally to 99% of the messages I get. If I'm really not interested, I say "Thanks for getting in touch, but I don't think we are a match, best of luck to you!" I used to give more specific reasons if I had them. (we have serious religious or political differences, I don't date smokers, etc) but that seemed to open the door for an argument. About half the time if I send a no thanks message I block the sender as well. I think that is based purely on instinct. Recently I had a man respond back to say that if I wasn't interested in him, I must only date men of a different race. I didn't know if I should laugh or be scared. Block!
The only people I don't respond to at all are people who are lewd, 20 or so years different in age, or live too far away to be sensible. Do I reject guys based on their photos/looks? Absolutely. you can tell a lot about a man from the cleanliness of the bathroom mirror he used to take his cell phone pic with. But I always read profiles.
i was just gong to post to say that if an initial message doesn't include evidence that he read my profile, that is minus one point. However, I do respond personally to 99% of the messages I get. If I'm really not interested, I say "Thanks for getting in touch, but I don't think we are a match, best of luck to you!" I used to give more specific reasons if I had them. (we have serious religious or political differences, I don't date smokers, etc) but that seemed to open the door for an argument. About half the time if I send a no thanks message I block the sender as well. I think that is based purely on instinct. Recently I had a man respond back to say that if I wasn't interested in him, I must only date men of a different race. I didn't know if I should laugh or be scared. Block!
The only people I don't respond to at all are people who are lewd, 20 or so years different in age, or live too far away to be sensible. Do I reject guys based on their photos/looks? Absolutely. you can tell a lot about a man from the cleanliness of the bathroom mirror he used to take his cell phone pic with. But I always read profiles.
regarding the bolded:
FWIW, you are the extreme exception. Most (99%) of women just don't respond if they arent interested.
i was just gong to post to say that if an initial message doesn't include evidence that he read my profile, that is minus one point. However, I do respond personally to 99% of the messages I get. If I'm really not interested, I say "Thanks for getting in touch, but I don't think we are a match, best of luck to you!" I used to give more specific reasons if I had them. (we have serious religious or political differences, I don't date smokers, etc) but that seemed to open the door for an argument. About half the time if I send a no thanks message I block the sender as well. I think that is based purely on instinct. Recently I had a man respond back to say that if I wasn't interested in him, I must only date men of a different race. I didn't know if I should laugh or be scared. Block!
The only people I don't respond to at all are people who are lewd, 20 or so years different in age, or live too far away to be sensible. Do I reject guys based on their photos/looks? Absolutely. you can tell a lot about a man from the cleanliness of the bathroom mirror he used to take his cell phone pic with. But I always read profiles.
Now why in the world would you send a guy a message like that?
a) "Hi. What's your net worth?"
b) "Hi. What's your opinion on the veracity of global warming?"
or maybe
c) "Hi. How do you feel about Alanis Morrissette?"
Just trying to come up with something "not robotic..."
A little off topic, but on the very unlikely chance that I ever try online dating again... I think I am going to stop typing longer messages to men and just send the men I like the message:
"You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile. Your biological and technological distinctiveness will be added to our own."
And see where it all goes from there
Dang! That was so clever! And it made me really lol!
a) "Hi. What's your net worth?"
b) "Hi. What's your opinion on the veracity of global warming?"
or maybe
c) "Hi. How do you feel about Alanis Morrissette?"
Just trying to come up with something "not robotic..."
I only get what a guy friend of mine calls 'Hey babby' messages. That's right; with two b's.
I shut off the chat feature when I was on okc.
Quote:
Originally Posted by jillabean
I think I am going to stop typing longer messages to men and just send the men I like the message:
"You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile. Your biological and technological distinctiveness will be added to our own."
And see where it all goes from there
This would totally work on me.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Muah ha ha
