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Old 08-17-2013, 12:55 AM
 
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But is that the real reason you want to know? Is it really a health issue?

It doesn't sound like it to me. And I bet it doesn't sound like it to her, either. It sounds more like you want to get dirt on her to use later if you need to. You need to stop asking. Let it go.
Quite the assumptions there. I only asked her once about her sexual history, and only because we were having sex. She didn't like being put on the spot and she didn't like having to admit that she's a skank. That's why she stormed out of the restaurant. See, all this I've learned just from the responses in this thread.

I will keep you all updated in case she contacts me again. Should be interesting, don't you think?
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:19 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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Quite the assumptions there. I only asked her once about her sexual history, and only because we were having sex. She didn't like being put on the spot and she didn't like having to admit that she's a skank. That's why she stormed out of the restaurant. See, all this I've learned just from the responses in this thread.

I will keep you all updated in case she contacts me again. Should be interesting, don't you think?
Honestly, I don't think it is an unfair assumption. I think it is a fair one. If you were mainly concerned about the health issue, you wouldn't be calling her a "skank."
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:23 AM
 
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Of course it's my business. I'm sticking my d!ck in her so it's my business. And yes, she's on the pill, so no condom is used.
The pill does not protect from any other disease and perhaps you should quit sticking things where they don't belong, especially your nose in her business when you were not a couple.
Did you volunteer your sexual history before you asked for hers?

Also, taking birth control pills is not a 100% guarantee that she will not get pregnant, you really should be more responsible for yourself when it comes to birth control and any disease that keeps on giving after you get it.

She is a "skank"? Really, but you are the one who has unprotected sex because the girl happens to take birth control pills...
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:35 AM
 
Location: Earth
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This is why it's my business. This is why I asked her about her recent sexual history. Starting to get the picture?
Did you ask her before or after boinking her?
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Old 08-17-2013, 10:24 AM
 
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Honestly, I don't think it is an unfair assumption. I think it is a fair one. If you were mainly concerned about the health issue, you wouldn't be calling her a "skank."
I call her a skank because honestly, that's what she is. And I've always known this, from day one.

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The pill does not protect from any other disease and perhaps you should quit sticking things where they don't belong, especially your nose in her business when you were not a couple.
Did you volunteer your sexual history before you asked for hers?

Also, taking birth control pills is not a 100% guarantee that she will not get pregnant, you really should be more responsible for yourself when it comes to birth control and any disease that keeps on giving after you get it.

She is a "skank"? Really, but you are the one who has unprotected sex because the girl happens to take birth control pills...
1. Yes, I volunteered my recent sexual history because it's a very important piece of information when you're having sex with someone. 2. I know. I was stupid for even going near her. Never again. 3. I didn't sleep with someone I just met.

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Did you ask her before or after boinking her?
Unfortunately, after. Which was incredibly stupid, I know. Who knows how many d!cks have been up in that girl since we broke up.
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Old 08-17-2013, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Concord, California
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It kinda sounds like you want to present your angry point of view about this girl in order for your opinion to be bolstered. I know how it feels when you're angry and you just want someone to listen to you vent, and hear how you were 'done-wrong'.
But, in the course of this thread you reveal yourself too...if you really want to have a non skanky girl in your life, you have to be more selective and smart about your choices. You actually would take the time before becoming sexual with someone the first time to find out how trustworthy they are. What do they want from you. Have they had a lot of partners-recently?Are they interested in having a committed relationship with JUST one person?
It sounds like you found someone who has low integrity and pretty low self-worth. And it sounds like you'd really like to have more than that. What do you think? Is it worth it to take a little more time in order to prevent this kind of thing from happening? Or is having casual sex better for you?
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Old 08-17-2013, 11:29 AM
 
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It sounds like you found someone who has low integrity and pretty low self-worth. And it sounds like you'd really like to have more than that. What do you think? Is it worth it to take a little more time in order to prevent this kind of thing from happening? Or is having casual sex better for you?
You've made some very good points, and you are correct. But honestly, when I hooked up with this girl several months ago, two things drew me to her; sex and the fact that she's a fun person to hang out with. But to be clear, never did I think the relationship would go anywhere, never.

I also want to be clear about the fact that I'm not angry. When I call her a skank it's not because I'm angry, it's because that's what she is. I've never judged her, though. Which is why I was surprised that she reacted so strongly when I asked her about her recent sexual history. It wasn't to get dirt on her, it was to protect myself from std's.

To delve deeper into your comments, yes, I do want something more meaningful with a person that I see a real future with. And when that person comes along I will welcome her with open arms. But until then, it's hard, as a red-blooded man, to turn down sex with a pretty, willing and fun woman. So I think part of it for me, is learning how to control my libido rather than just jumping into the sack with women. Like I said earlier, I'm still learning about myself and about relationships.

Thank you for your comments.
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I call her a skank because honestly, that's what she is. And I've always known this, from day one.
But "skank" is not some neutral descriptive word, like "round" or "green." It is highly loaded with contempt and hatred. No one ever called anyone that didn't disgust and enrage them a "skank." Not ever.
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:10 PM
 
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But "skank" is not some neutral descriptive word, like "round" or "green." It is highly loaded with contempt and hatred. No one ever called anyone that didn't disgust and enrage them a "skank." Not ever.
Yes, makes you wonder why he would want to debase himself by being intimate with her. He must loathe himself even more.
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Old 08-17-2013, 02:16 PM
 
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Yes, makes you wonder why he would want to debase himself by being intimate with her. He must loathe himself even more.
Well, as I said earlier...several months ago, before we started having sex, we both go tested. So it's not like I was sticking my d!ck in some place that was unsafe. We had fun together, we had great sex. Why does that mean I loathe myself? Yeah, she's a skank. I wouldn't call her that to her face, obviously. But that's my honest assessment. It doesn't mean I hate her, not by any stretch. In fact I've always enjoyed spending time with her. She's a fun person and quite bright. Doesn't mean she ain't no skank though.
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