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Back when I was younger I had a hard time in my relationship with my wife because of her dysfunctional mentally ill family. They lived just blocks from me and messed with our minds and each other. I had never seen a more terrible group of people in my entire life.
I begged my wife to move out of town so they were not there to mess us up by their cruel meddling and attempts to bring my wife and I down.
We were going to demand that they participate in some type of family counseling with us but thankfully she got a job out of state and we broke ties with them.
What do you think of getting involved in family counseling with your in-laws and your spouses siblings?
Back when I was younger I had a hard time in my relationship with my wife because of her dysfunctional mentally ill family. They lived just blocks from me and messed with our minds and each other. I had never seen a more terrible group of people in my entire life.
I begged my wife to move out of town so they were not there to mess us up by their cruel meddling and attempts to bring my wife and I down.
We were going to demand that they participate in some type of family counseling with us but thankfully she got a job out of state and we broke ties with them.
What do you think of getting involved in family counseling with your in-laws and your spouses siblings?
I think that would have to be something that your spouse initiates - and not you.
Back when I was younger I had a hard time in my relationship with my wife because of her dysfunctional mentally ill family. They lived just blocks from me and messed with our minds and each other. I had never seen a more terrible group of people in my entire life.
I begged my wife to move out of town so they were not there to mess us up by their cruel meddling and attempts to bring my wife and I down.
We were going to demand that they participate in some type of family counseling with us but thankfully she got a job out of state and we broke ties with them.
What do you think of getting involved in family counseling with your in-laws and your spouses siblings?
How do you insist or demand that they get involved in counseling?
Agree with previous poster that this is something she should initiate. Your wife learning how to assert herself and set boundaries can go a long way in situations like this as well.
While a rudder can turn a boat, there are few persons inside a family system that can independently change how a family interacts with them and alter the trajectory of the whole. It is better to move away, reduce contact, and as mentioned above, create good boundaries of what is suitable / unsuitable behavior. Both persons in the relationship (husband, wife, or other partner) have to be in agreement this is an appropriate accommodation for their wellbeing. Making such changes typically means having little to no contact with the 'diseased' part of the family - they will cut you out too. It's kind of like bringing your partner to a couple's counselor and saying 'change this person.' Not going to happen without their consent and motivation to change. And even then, with existing resentment, people are hard pressed to accept the changes and accommodations that have been created by their partners. It's a lot of work with many persons who need to be in agreement for the benefits of change. This is deep, long-term work and rather idealistic.
Back when I was younger I had a hard time in my relationship with my wife because of her dysfunctional mentally ill family. They lived just blocks from me and messed with our minds and each other. I had never seen a more terrible group of people in my entire life.
I begged my wife to move out of town so they were not there to mess us up by their cruel meddling and attempts to bring my wife and I down.
We were going to demand that they participate in some type of family counseling with us but thankfully she got a job out of state and we broke ties with them.
What do you think of getting involved in family counseling with your in-laws and your spouses siblings?
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Back when I was younger I had a hard time in my relationship with my wife because of her dysfunctional mentally ill family. They lived just blocks from me and messed with our minds and each other. I had never seen a more terrible group of people in my entire life.
I begged my wife to move out of town so they were not there to mess us up by their cruel meddling and attempts to bring my wife and I down.
We were going to demand that they participate in some type of family counseling with us but thankfully she got a job out of state and we broke ties with them.
What do you think of getting involved in family counseling with your in-laws and your spouses siblings?
Personally, I think it is a mistake to get involved with a woman that has a dysfunctional family. If it were me in that situation, the moment I realized it, I would end the relationship. What right do you have in forcing or trying to force someone else to go to a counselor? You have no authority over anyone else, even your wife or her family.
My wife at the time did not have the courage to demand it and of course they would have ignored my request.
I think it would have been great to have some type of intense family counseling and I would have been in my glory telling everyone what I thought of them under the cover of counseling with a professional!
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