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Old 08-18-2013, 07:33 AM
 
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The five year younger and slimmer version doesn't exist any more. Why pretend to be someone they are not? Besides, how am I supposed to recognize them if they look nothing like their pictures?
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Old 08-18-2013, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Des Moines IA
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I would love an answer to this question as well. Do the people who do this really expect the person to like them when they finally meet up? So many people do it, And I have yet to hear that it was worked for anyone, but people do it all the time.
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Old 08-18-2013, 07:48 AM
 
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I will have to say that I get more replies with a sharp face than a bloated one.
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Old 08-18-2013, 07:57 AM
 
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I think lot of people remember how they FELT when those pictures were taken as much as how they looked. They want to show their best self in the hopes of recapturing that feeling.

If you aren't currently happy, you probably arent taking current pictures of yourself.
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Old 08-18-2013, 08:14 AM
 
Location: My House
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The older you get, the more likely it is that you haven't changed dramatically since your pic from a few years ago. My husband took a pic of me in 2009, right after I had my hair done. Two years later, my stylist decided to try that same haircolor and a similar cut. My husband took my picture again so we could compare. One was age 41. One was 43. Looked nearly identical.

If I'd done that at 21 and 23, I'm sure it would have been harder because changes are a bit more dramatic then.

Kinda like when my husband started losing his hair. The initial loss accelerated rapidly. Then, slowed down a LOT.
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Old 08-18-2013, 08:36 AM
 
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I met a woman for coffee and she showed up and recognized me and introduced herself to me but in my head I felt like I was on a hidden camera show or something.

We talked but I just couldn't get past the fact that the picture she used had to be a decade old.
I commented on her picture when I first sent her a message. Well too good to be true now applies to people as well as scams.

I just chalked it up and forgot about it- no connection, then a week later she sent me a message that I couldn't just ignore. She indicated we weren't a match (big surprise there) but indicated I had a nice smile and should post a picture with more of a smile. That was the icing on the cake for me.
I called her out on her picture. I said I wasn't going to contact her as it was obvious there was no connection but that it was ironic she would tell me how to post a picture as hers had to be a decade or older and left it at that.
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Old 08-18-2013, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Pa
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A person should always display a recent pic.
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Old 08-18-2013, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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A person should always display a recent pic.
I agree Raena even though I don't use online dating. I'd be really amused if someone led me on though and would question them
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Old 08-18-2013, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I agree Raena even though I don't use online dating. I'd be really amused if someone led me on though and would question them
Oh I had this! He was nothing like his pic.It was his older brother!
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Old 08-18-2013, 05:08 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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The five year younger and slimmer version doesn't exist any more. Why pretend to be someone they are not? Besides, how am I supposed to recognize them if they look nothing like their pictures?
At your age, people shouldn't have a need to do this. They're in college, or just finishing. They're still young and slim, in theory, anyway. Even if they've gained a little weight, they should still look enough like their photos for you to recognize them. I think you're exaggerating. Even as you try online dating, continue approaching women in public, and mix up your activities, to try new things, and get into new circles, as well, if your usual venues aren't working (as I recall you said they weren't).

I wonder what the membership's opinion would be, if you asked if it was fair to walk away from a date, if the person looked little like their photo.
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