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I had a second date with this guy over the weekend. On our first date (which was our first time meeting each other), the only physical contact we had was a hug hello and goodbye. Then on our second date, we went to the movies and I wore a short skirt and we were making out and his hands wandered... I did attempt to stop him at first but he kept trying to do it so then I just went with it.
Do you think he thinks I'm easy now?
Ask him what he thinks or wait until you have actual sex and see if he calls again, that should give you your answer.
And you believed him?
Girl, a guy would tell you anything. One of the worst guys I ever encountered actually used the name of the lord in his efforts to sweet talk me. Shortly after, I found out he was married.....but I digress. A guy who really wasn't into casual sex, would not be trying to "touch you like that" on the second date.
Most guys who respect you and want an LTR, would keep their hands to themselves.
Forget his words, look at his actions. He's a smooth talker.
Maybe so, but I had something similar happen to me recently with another guy too. I was wearing a skirt again and we were in the movies but not making out. He was holding my hand and then he started caressing my knee...and then my thigh...and I got the impression that he was trying to inch his way up, but I pushed his hand back down because I didn't really wanna go there with him, but I secretly thought it was kinda hot.
So then when the same thing happened to me again with this new guy, I didn't make as much effort to stop him since it's secretly what I wanted anyway.
I pushed his hand back down because I didn't really wanna go there with him, but I secretly thought it was kinda hot.
So then when the same thing happened to me again with this new guy, I didn't make as much effort to stop him since it's secretly what I wanted anyway.
wow. this reads almost pornographically
i don't doubt that you're a sincere poster, but looking at your thread history i'm pretty sure you love to play the role of innocent. consciously or unwittingly, i don't know. but it's no coincidence you're getting into and posting about these sorts of situations over and over
If he put his hand up your skirt and you acted cool with it, you gave him the impression that's what you do. Period. You also have to keep in mind that whatever pace you set for physical contact will typically continue. So only kisses for the first 4 dates sends a very different message than: kissing on the first date, sexual groping on the second... the obvious third step is probably some sort of sex. If that isn't what you want, you need to SLOW things and clearly communicate that, because the message that was sent is that you likely will be ready for serious stuff the next time you meet.
Let's be real. Your mouth said one thing and you letting him put his hand up your skirt on only the second date said something entirely different. So yes, I think it's safe to assume he's going to be expecting sex very soon.
Maybe so, but I had something similar happen to me recently with another guy too. I was wearing a skirt again and we were in the movies but not making out. He was holding my hand and then he started caressing my knee...and then my thigh...and I got the impression that he was trying to inch his way up, but I pushed his hand back down because I didn't really wanna go there with him, but I secretly thought it was kinda hot.
So then when the same thing happened to me again with this new guy, I didn't make as much effort to stop him since it's secretly what I wanted anyway.
It's funny sometimes we women contradict ourselves. We say we want a relationship, but then when we find a guy that's hot, we let him do things that would actually get in the way of having a relationship. I've been there.
I don't know if you want a relationship, but the fact that you are questioning whether he thinks you are EASY, suggests to me that a part of you does not want that EASY label. If you do want a relationship, then you need to set boundaries sister.
I know it's tough. But worthwhile things, are usually not easy. Think long-term, if that's what you want.
I had a second date with this guy over the weekend. On our first date (which was our first time meeting each other), the only physical contact we had was a hug hello and goodbye. Then on our second date, we went to the movies and I wore a short skirt and we were making out and his hands wandered... I did attempt to stop him at first but he kept trying to do it so then I just went with it.
I know it's tough. But worthwhile things, are usually not easy. Think long-term, if that's what you want.
To the OP: Or think about what you really do want. Do you want a relationship with this man? Do you see him as having long term potential? If not, then why do you care if he thinks you're easy? Maybe you like getting your jollies in the movie theater and at least it's safe sex and you can use it in your fantasies later when getting together with BOB. Or you guys can do hot things all over town before you finally do the dirty deed and have the sexiest relationship ever.
Your OP sounds just like something your mother or grandmother might have asked Ann Landers back in the day when young ladies made all of their decisions based on what a man might think. Real women's lib is when you can distance yourself from that thinking. Fake women's lib is when you behave ungratefully after he kindly holds the door open for you. Think about it. We don't have to get all militant about things but we can think about what it is we want. What do you want? I think I know. . .
Have sex as soon as you want to, assuming he is willing, and use that as a way to screen out guys who have issues about women's sexuality.
If he has issues, or just doesn't like you that much, the relationship will stop progressing emotionally after the sex... and will eventually fade away.
If he has ba*ls, and is not afraid of women, and likes you, it will be fun and will bring the two of you closer together.
Well like I said, since I'm pretty sure that another guy I went to the movies with recently was making an attempt to do the exact same thing, I thought that maybe that's just something guys do when you're wearing a skirt. Maybe I've never worn a skirt to a movie date in the past so I'm just now experiencing this.
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Originally Posted by stepka
To the OP: Or think about what you really do want. Do you want a relationship with this man? Do you see him as having long term potential? If not, then why do you care if he thinks you're easy? Maybe you like getting your jollies in the movie theater and at least it's safe sex and you can use it in your fantasies later when getting together with BOB. Or you guys can do hot things all over town before you finally do the dirty deed and have the sexiest relationship ever.
I really don't know him well enough to say whether I want a relationship with him. I just don't want to be thought of by anyone as um...a "loose woman" because I'm not.
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Or you guys can do hot things all over town before you finally do the dirty deed and have the sexiest relationship ever. 
