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To me, who has been single for ages and who's previous relationships were, let's say, learning experiences it kind of blows my mind that so many have found people who they are compatible enough with that they want to be together for a long time and that the other person feels the same way about them.
What am I missing?..I do feel that I am missing some key to human connection that other people have possession of.
To me, who has been single for ages and who's previous relationships were, let's say, learning experiences it kind of blows my mind that so many have found people who they are compatible enough with that they want to be together for a long time and that the other person feels the same way about them.
What am I missing?..I do feel that I am missing some key to human connection that other people have possession of.
I hear ya. It all seems a little far fetched to me too sometimes. I often wonder if some people simply have different standards for what "love" is supposed to be, and how to act on it. I do know this: many people end up with significant others that fall well short of fairly tale territory. That's too bad, but it seems that two people meeting who genuinely capture each other's imaginations is a pretty rare thing. It's like anything else in life - you don't always get what you want.
I hear ya. It all seems a little far fetched to me too sometimes. I often wonder if some people simply have different standards for what "love" is supposed to be, and how to act on it. I do know this: many people end up with significant others that fall well short of fairly tale territory. That's too bad, but it seems that two people meeting who genuinely capture each other's imaginations is pretty rare. It's like anything else in life - you don't always get what you want.
Nobody gets the fairy tale. The fairy tale doesn't exist. In the real world we all have quirks and habits that annoy each other, we all fall short of perfection.
To me, who has been single for ages and who's previous relationships were, let's say, learning experiences it kind of blows my mind that so many have found people who they are compatible enough with that they want to be together for a long time and that the other person feels the same way about them.
What am I missing?..I do feel that I am missing some key to human connection that other people have possession of.
You're missing that love is a verb. It's dedication, not desire. When you come to understand that love is action--it's doing for one another, helping one another, and supporting one another even when you get on each other's last nerve--then you'll get the hang of it.
At least, that's my stock response for people I don't know very well. It just seems that most people who come here looking for advice are hung up on feeling love, when really, it's all about being love.
You're missing that love is a verb. It's dedication, not desire. When you come to understand that love is action--it's doing for one another, helping one another, and supporting one another even when you get on each other's last nerve--then you'll get the hang of it.
At least, that's my stock response for people I don't know very well. It just seems that most people who come here looking for advice are hung up on feeling love, when really, it's all about being love.
I was thinking about this the other day, and it really hit me just how ridiculously low my odds are of ever finding love. First of all, I haven't even met a woman who's single in years. Not one. Second, if I did manage to meet one, and I liked her, what are the odds she'd also like me? Or vice versa? The chances of all of those things lining up are just staggeringly unlikely.
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it kind of blows my mind that so many have found people who they are compatible enough with that they want to be together for a long time and that the other person feels the same way about them.
