in need of dating advice (boyfriend, how to, girl, children)
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I met this guy on a trip in July. He also lives in the DC area and took quite a liking to me. Since then, he has asked me out many times and is almost too eager. We'll go on a date, then he'll immediately ask me out again the next day. He has a prominent position and gets invited to lots of really amazing parties (literally the swankiest); so, I have a hard time turning him down because the parties would be amazing to go to.
I met a girl on the trip who used to date him. Apparently, he stopped talking to her all of a sudden and she did not know why. I am afraid that his attention will be short-lived and that he will stop talking to me all of a sudden. I've been dumped quite a few times and am almost pessimistic when it comes to dating and men.
There are a couple of other things that sort of tell me to stop seeing him (sometimes he says mean things and seems small if you know what I mean).
I think this might be more relevant to the Relationships forum, but it seems like you are not really interested in this guy himself, and more so in his social connections.
On the other hand, it also sounds like he is kind of edgy/unpredictable.
I guess both of you could work on improving your attitudes/personalities a fair bit
What do you ultimately want out of this situation with him? friends w/ benefits? possible boyfriend? just an associate so you can get into exclusive parties?
You don't have to accept his next-day date offers, you know. You don't have to make yourself hyper-available to him. You can choose to see him only once or twice a week. I'd recommend that, and see how he reacts.
I met this guy on a trip in July. He also lives in the DC area and took quite a liking to me. Since then, he has asked me out many times and is almost too eager. We'll go on a date, then he'll immediately ask me out again the next day. He has a prominent position and gets invited to lots of really amazing parties (literally the swankiest); so, I have a hard time turning him down because the parties would be amazing to go to.
I met a girl on the trip who used to date him. Apparently, he stopped talking to her all of a sudden and she did not know why. I am afraid that his attention will be short-lived and that he will stop talking to me all of a sudden. I've been dumped quite a few times and am almost pessimistic when it comes to dating and men.
There are a couple of other things that sort of tell me to stop seeing him (sometimes he says mean things and seems small if you know what I mean).
Sounds like you are a: "What's in it for me" type of gal.
Would it not be possible to ask him outright: “Look, we seem to have a mutual interest in each other, and have been seeing each other frequently. But what’s the big picture here? For you, to have a pretty date on your arm, to impress your buddies at fancy social gatherings? For me, to partake of the free-food at said gatherings? Casual sex? Marriage, children and growing old together? Something in between?”
If he reacts to this with shock or derision, then perhaps this would be an excellent cause for breakup. If he has frank and reasonable response, then there’s excellent reason to deepen the relationship.
I met this guy on a trip in July. He also lives in the DC area and took quite a liking to me. Since then, he has asked me out many times and is almost too eager. We'll go on a date, then he'll immediately ask me out again the next day. He has a prominent position and gets invited to lots of really amazing parties (literally the swankiest); so, I have a hard time turning him down because the parties would be amazing to go to.
I met a girl on the trip who used to date him. Apparently, he stopped talking to her all of a sudden and she did not know why. I am afraid that his attention will be short-lived and that he will stop talking to me all of a sudden. I've been dumped quite a few times and am almost pessimistic when it comes to dating and men.
There are a couple of other things that sort of tell me to stop seeing him (sometimes he says mean things and seems small if you know what I mean).
oh boy, we have a live one, another "where's this relationship going" in my head girl drama....
just go out with the guy, enjoy yourself, and don't get emotionally invested until you feel more secure, if that ever happens...
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