Relationship serious problem (girlfriend, marriage, women, love)
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Hi all, I'm in a relationship that has started 4 years ago, maybe I should mention that this is my first relationship ever and now I'm 23 years old and she is 22. At the moment we have serious problems that we deal with everyday but we just cannot break up. I think I am the problem because I don't find her as attractive as before though she looks quite the same. The next thing is that I am afraid to decide to stay with her forever because I find other girls very attractive and can't imagine myself having sex only with my girlfriend forever(she is waiting for me to make the fonal decision whether I'm staying with her or moving on with my life). I used to love her very much and now Im kind of fond of her and can't decide to break with her, she was for a long time close to me and we had great moments and I consider her as a family member, but i think I love her more as a family member than a girlfriend, There is not much romance and passion. As you see I really need your help because this is
the hardest moment I've ever been in my life(I'm in this crisis for 2 years, never made a decision).. what is your suggestion?
If you are in this crisis for 2 years then why prolong this misery? You need to gently request some time apart and see other people. I think you need a break from this relationship.
You need to break up with this woman. You don't love her enough to make a lifetime commitment. Sometimes this happens and it's sad, horrible, and gut wrenching after investing so much time and energy into a relationship, but to continue would not be prudent or fair to either one of you. It will be rough in the short term, but the best thing in the long term for both of you. She deserves to be with someone who adores her and can't imagine life without her. You need to break up, move on, experience other people, and sow your wild oats. Best wishes.
Hearts change in life, and there's no easy way to break up, but I agree, you should if youre truely feeling this way.
Time is the most precious gift we have, dont waste another day being unhappy with someone. Try to be direct and honest with her; you'll both survive. GL
It's normal to find other people attractive and to lust after others even when you're happy in a relationship. But apparently other people are all you're currently lusting after. I would gently tell her that you think it would be good for you to test the waters with other girls before you make a lifetime commitment.
You may very well find the grass isn't any greener on the other side, even if you sleep with 10 different women. Maybe after sowing your wild oats you will return to your current GF. There's a lot more to marriage than just sex, though I understand your point at your age.
Whatever you do, please break this news as gently as you can to your GF. She's not the problem in the relationship, you are. Bear that in mind.
You're young, so is she. Why waste anymore time?? You're going to hurt her, accept that, but you are slowly removing a bandaid. You need to rip it off. The early you do this, the earlier healing will happen. Good luck
Last edited by willow bear; 09-01-2013 at 08:56 AM..
why is no one mentioning that this is the natural course of any relationship? The honeymoon/infatuation phase is over, and now you're just comfortable with each other.
It's no wonder this culture can't maintain stable marriages. Everybody thinks it's going to be a Disney romance the entire time.
I'm NOT saying he should marry her, I'm just saying in general.
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