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Has anyone here noticed lately, many women don't socialize or dance with random guys in clubs? Many girls only dance with people they came with. If you're a single guy, you're out of luck on many nights. I would say the dance floor has three groups, two of which are vastly superior in size compared to the third. The first group is girls dancing with guys they came with. The second is girls dancing with their girlfriends or other girls. By far the smallest group tends to be girls dancing with random guys whom they've just met. Nowadays the knee-jerk response from a girl who is asked to dance is "no thanks". Whether you're a nice looking guy, or have a great personality seems to almost be a non-factor. I think it's just a sign of the times. As we've evolved as a society, we've regressed socially. For every technological advancement we've made, we seemingly have taken a step backwards in terms of how we interact amongst ourselves. We all know that it's easier to get a girl to dance after you strike up a conversation,(if you can hear yourselves over the music), but many women have become so self-conscious, awkward, leery of men in terms of their character, full of themselves, or just plain neurotic, they simply don't dance with guys they don't know on some level outside of that establishment. Many women in clubs come with their combat-game faces on, and simply don't allow themselves to be approached. This has me wondering if nightclubs are still the best place to meet women. How many of us can say that most of our relationships or even a good portion, have resulted from people we've actually met at a nightclubs as opposed to some other place?
Hey man, I never met a girl at a bar that I ever amounted to anything. I looked back and thought about it , but I have not met one person in my life at a bar that formed a lasting relationship. I did not meet my wife at a bar. I would agree with you , a quieter place where you can hear each other talk is much better.
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You are right about the groups; I don't nightclub as much as before, but when I did those were pretty much the three groups women fell into. I've never been to a nightclub alone with the intention of meeting someone. I've always went with a group of friends.
When the dance floor is crowded, and everyone is feeling good and jammin to the music. Everyone ends up pretty much dancing with everyone (especially a crowded dance floor). That is a window of opportunity to dance with a girl that you want to get to know more. Dance with her friends, be a little bit silly, you will break down that barrier.
Most likely a meeting someone in a club environment is usually a one night fling sorta thing, but plenty of meaningful relationships have come out of that. Good luck!
I don't think nightclubs have ever been "the best place to meet women" or men!
Totally agree .
The best places to meet women are grocery stores (on Saturdays or Sundays; we're usually not in a rush on the weekends, so we're more apt to talk to you – and undress you with our eyes – longer), jogging trails, hiking trails, walking trails, museums, dog parks, free outdoor concerts, beaches, etc.
What are your outdoor hobbies? These are the places I would recommend looking for compatible women .
I don't know anyone personally who began their long-term relationship in a bar or club. There are probably a few on the board, though. I can't hear myself think in those places, let alone try to have a real conversation with someone.
Has anyone here noticed lately, many women don't socialize or dance with random guys in clubs? Many girls only dance with people they came with. If you're a single guy, you're out of luck on many nights. I would say the dance floor has three groups, two of which are vastly superior in size compared to the third. The first group is girls dancing with guys they came with. The second is girls dancing with their girlfriends or other girls. By far the smallest group tends to be girls dancing with random guys whom they've just met. Nowadays the knee-jerk response from a girl who is asked to dance is "no thanks". Whether you're a nice looking guy, or have a great personality seems to almost be a non-factor. I think it's just a sign of the times. As we've evolved as a society, we've regressed socially. For every technological advancement we've made, we seemingly have taken a step backwards in terms of how we interact amongst ourselves. We all know that it's easier to get a girl to dance after you strike up a conversation,(if you can hear yourselves over the music), but many women have become so self-conscious, awkward, leery of men in terms of their character, full of themselves, or just plain neurotic, they simply don't dance with guys they don't know on some level outside of that establishment. Many women in clubs come with their combat-game faces on, and simply don't allow themselves to be approached. This has me wondering if nightclubs are still the best place to meet women. How many of us can say that most of our relationships or even a good portion, have resulted from people we've actually met at a nightclubs as opposed to some other place?
The simple truth is this. The prevailing atmosphere at most clubs is not happy, fun-loving and celebratory. The prevailing atmosphere at most clubs is belligerent, hostile and predatory. Most clubs are places where loud, aggressive, half-drunk young men strut around trying to impress women, often by trying to "punk" or humiliate other young men. That is why so many vicious fights break out in clubs, and why all clubs need bouncers to keep things under control. Women are just getting sick of it. Many either avoid clubs altogether or, as you say, make it clear they are with a man or only interested in socializing with other women.
Has anyone here noticed lately, many women don't socialize or dance with random guys in clubs? Many girls only dance with people they came with. If you're a single guy, you're out of luck on many nights. I would say the dance floor has three groups, two of which are vastly superior in size compared to the third. The first group is girls dancing with guys they came with. The second is girls dancing with their girlfriends or other girls. By far the smallest group tends to be girls dancing with random guys whom they've just met. Nowadays the knee-jerk response from a girl who is asked to dance is "no thanks". Whether you're a nice looking guy, or have a great personality seems to almost be a non-factor. I think it's just a sign of the times. As we've evolved as a society, we've regressed socially. For every technological advancement we've made, we seemingly have taken a step backwards in terms of how we interact amongst ourselves. We all know that it's easier to get a girl to dance after you strike up a conversation,(if you can hear yourselves over the music), but many women have become so self-conscious, awkward, leery of men in terms of their character, full of themselves, or just plain neurotic, they simply don't dance with guys they don't know on some level outside of that establishment. Many women in clubs come with their combat-game faces on, and simply don't allow themselves to be approached. This has me wondering if nightclubs are still the best place to meet women. How many of us can say that most of our relationships or even a good portion, have resulted from people we've actually met at a nightclubs as opposed to some other place?
It is interesting that you ask this question. I started a similar thread last year called "THE CHANGES IN THE NIGHTCLUB AND BAR SCENE" where I address some of those same issues. You can check it out but I don't know how far back it is by now but if you go back page after page you will find it.
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