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Old 09-02-2013, 05:01 PM
 
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Hahaha are you serious? You have wrote alot of BS! Your alcoholic BF is 8 years older you are one word and HYPOCRITE comes to mind !!!!
There is a BIG difference between two people with a 8 years difference who meet offline versus someone who seeks much younger intentionally. 8 years isn't that big of a difference considering I see men in their 40's trying to seek women in their 20's which is another generation.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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Yeah, but the alcoholism keeps him young. Probably always living with his mom has infantilized him so much it's kept off the years too.
Lol I think he's slipping her some
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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There is a BIG difference between two people with a 8 years difference who meet online versus someone who seeks much younger intentionally. 8 years isn't that big of a difference considering I see men in their 40's trying to seek women in their 20's which is another generation.
You don't deserve a reply. However, Can't you see how much of a hypocrite you are? If you can't you better start checking your drink buddy because that man is slipping you something.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I did not say i spoke about them. I'm just stating the truth.
So I guess you don't see the irony... Oh well...
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:09 PM
 
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I strongly disagree with the folks who claim that it's only online where people are pursuing people not in their age group. Since several people here have cited their own observations in the real world, allow me to cite mine. I'm in my late my 30s. Most of the people I know are 35 and above. Of the ones who aren't married, some are divorced, others have never been married. Some have kids, others don't.

So here's what I've observed. (And let me emphasize that this is strictly offline, not online behavior.):

- Men who spent their 20s and 30s establishing their careers are now wanting to start families. But most of the single women they meet in their age group already have kids and don't want more. So they set their sights on younger women, since they're less likely to already have kids and more likely to still want to have them.

- Women who are 40 and above and already have kids, but don't want more. So they exclude the men who want them. They're OK with dating men who already have kids. But of the men in their age group who don't want kids, the women are rarely attracted to them for various reasons (overweight, too set in their ways, too much drama with the ex, etc.).

Now I'm not saying that everyone 40 or above falls into these two categories, just that it's pretty common among the people I see. The first group consists of highly paid professionals who are very successful, but they achieved their success in part by putting their desire to start a family on hold. The second group consists of women who find that the pool of available men either doesn't want them or they don't want the men, the issue of whether to have children being a big factor.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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For the most part, the people I know date within 2 or 3 years of their age, either above or below. The guy I'm dating is a little more than a year younger than I am and my sister is dating someone 2 years younger than her. In fact...when I think about it most of my girlfriends are dating/married to guys a year or two younger...weird.

Only one is dating someone far older than her...and she has major daddy issues so I'm guessing that's the cause.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:13 PM
 
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You don't deserve a reply. However, Can't you see how much of a hypocrite you are? If you can't you better start checking your drink buddy because that man is slipping you something.
He's slipping me plenty but not drinks or drugs.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I strongly disagree with the folks who claim that it's only online where people are pursuing people not in their age group. Since several people here have cited their own observations in the real world, allow me to cite mine. I'm in my late my 30s. Most of the people I know are 35 and above. Of the ones who aren't married, some are divorced, others have never been married. Some have kids, others don't.

So here's what I've observed. (And let me emphasize that this is strictly offline, not online behavior.):

- Men who spent their 20s and 30s establishing their careers are now wanting to start families. But most of the single women they meet in their age group already have kids and don't want more. So they set their sights on younger women, since they're less likely to already have kids and more likely to still want to have them.

- Women who are 40 and above and already have kids, but don't want more. So they exclude the men who want them. They're OK with dating men who already have kids. But of the men in their age group who don't want kids, the women are rarely attracted to them for various reasons (overweight, too set in their ways, too much drama with the ex, etc.).

Now I'm not saying that everyone 40 or above falls into these two categories, just that it's pretty common among the people I see. The first group consists of highly paid professionals who are very successful, but they achieved their success in part by putting their desire to start a family on hold. The second group consists of women who find that the pool of available men either doesn't want them or they don't want the men, the issue of whether to have children being a big factor.
In my social circle - I have girlfriends who are married to men up to 7 or 8 years younger than them and male friends that are dating women up to 7 or 8 years younger than them. I have one friend that married someone about 20 years older than her - but she's the only one I can think of that I know fairly well. The majority of my friends are with people within a few years of their own age. My friends are mostly in their 30's.
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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He's slipping me plenty but not drinks or drugs.
He's paying you then? Or do you have daddy issues because that's the only way you would date a older man right?
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:16 PM
 
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I honestly don't know what these people are raised in. My parents taught me better and to accept that what people do with their lives is their decision and has nothing to do with anyone else.


I honestly don't know a single female who dates her age or younger. They all prefer older men.
My family is made up of them. My mother is 66 and father sites 79. My cousin is 44 and married to a guy who 9 years older than her. And of course I already mentioned my uncle.
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