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Old 09-02-2013, 01:29 PM
 
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Online dating brings out the idiot men who think they can get much younger. The reality is I know very few women online or offline who desire much older men. As a 42 year old woman I didn't want to be approached by a 60 year old man. A normal man meeting women offline isn't as concerned about age. As for the whole idea of wanting younger women for children that is complete bs. First off if a 40 year old man really wanted kids he would have looked sooner. Second, most 40 year old women can be fertile. Third, there are even younger women and yes even men who are infertile. Fourth, women can pick up when they are being judged by their age. I talk to a lot of younger women online and offline and all of them were repulsed by men seeking them out only because of their age.

What do you call a 50 year old man seeking much younger women online? still single years from now.
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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I want to settle down and have more kids so my age rage is 30-40 I find men in that age rage are more mature and serious about settling down and having a family.


I'm just generalising and obviously not all men are the same
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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yep.

everyone has their ideal mate and opinion/stereotypes of others. but relationships are an emotional bond, not logical.
logic tells me to date younger since I want a family.
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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logic tells me to date younger since I want a family.
But you want that emotional bond too right?
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Canada
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yep.

don't get caught up in this logically "what is your preferred age range" discussion because what counts is how you connect, whether there is any benefit to getting to know each other more, having good times and hanging out ---all emotional aspects of chemistry and compatibility.

everyone has their ideal mate and opinion/stereotypes of others. but relationships are an emotional bond, not logical.

P.S.: This age preference/difference topic has been commented on many many CDR threads. Almost seems as if once one thread drops from your screen listing someone thinks no one is discussing the topic. the answers wont change, nor will ppl's opinion.
So very true!

Where other than online dating would a 40 year old guy have the ability to contact hundreds (thousands?) of 20-somethings girls/women?

IRL, when you look around, there are exceptions, but most people I see are with someone close in age. If I think of all my friends and all of my SO's friends, every couple is within about 3 years of each other, except for one. Sure, attraction comes in all ages, but I don't think it's the standard that people IRL target a dating range 15+ years younger.
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:49 PM
 
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logic tells me to date younger since I want a family.
And what happens if you get that younger woman and she is infertile or you are? This whole idea that some men have about seeking younger to breed makes women out to be nothing more than animals, not mates. I don't know your age or the age you seek but 40 year old men seeking 25-30 are just deluding themselves that they can get what they desire unless they are handsome and well off. Rarely are the men I see on dating sites who seek younger either one and they can expect that they will never get the younger women.
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:52 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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And what happens if you get that younger woman and she is infertile or you are? This whole idea that some men have about seeking younger to breed makes women out to be nothing more than animals, not mates. I don't know your age or the age you seek but 40 year old men seeking 25-30 are just deluding themselves that they can get what they desire unless they are handsome and well off. Rarely are the men I see on dating sites who seek younger either one and they can expect that they will never get the younger women.
The whole discussion so far says nothing of the fact that men start to slow down sexually after 40, and more so after 50. Most young women want to be with someone just as full of youthful vigor as they are.
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Old 09-02-2013, 01:55 PM
 
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The whole discussion so far says nothing of the fact that men start to slow down sexually after 40, and more so after 50. Most young women want to be with someone just as full of youthful vigor as they are.
That too. I am trying to figure out why an educated women in her 20's or early 30's would want to be with a man who needs Viagra. I wouldn't. I dated a man 15 years older when I was 22 and he couldn't get it up so I dumped him.
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Old 09-02-2013, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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And what happens if you get that younger woman and she is infertile or you are? This whole idea that some men have about seeking younger to breed makes women out to be nothing more than animals, not mates. I don't know your age or the age you seek but 40 year old men seeking 25-30 are just deluding themselves that they can get what they desire unless they are handsome and well off. Rarely are the men I see on dating sites who seek younger either one and they can expect that they will never get the younger women.
Well if he dated younger then there are more of a chance that the younger female wants kids appose to a 35 year old. Also if there are fertility problems then that's what IVF is for. There are ways to help couples have kids and if not then adoption is a option. I'm 25 and my dating rage is 30-40 nothing wrong with that at all.
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Old 09-02-2013, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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When I did on line dating I found it to be a mix. I got asked out by older, by younger and by my age. It was pretty evenly matched between all of the ages.

Guys ask out who they are attracted to, women accept accept dates by guys they are attracted to. It's not rocket science.
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