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Old 09-02-2013, 03:21 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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I think you come to a point in your life that you want to be with someone who has common interests and you enjoy being with. Age??? Well nothing too young or too old. As for wanting kids, women who are in their lower 40s are pushing it but you always give a kids a life that is already on this earth. There's plenty of option, why limits yourself!!
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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And what happens if you get that younger woman and she is infertile or you are?
I'm willing to take that chance, and besides, my bullet has plenty of gunpowder (been proven)

So what, date a woman that's my age (mid 30's btw) that's either done having kids (or cant have more then 1 more) or a 45-50 that's in their yearly stages menopause?

I want the option of a big family, and there's no shortage of 20-30 yr olds who are willing to date an older man like myself. So, I don't see it as problem for me.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:23 PM
 
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So what do you think? What (if anything) can you infer about someone based on their preferred age range, especially as it relates to their own age? So if someone excludes people their own age, what does that tell you about them? Or if someone has a really wide range, do you take that seriously? And do you think some people try to appear more open-minded than they really are?

It wouldn't be worth worrying about unless I were single and someone was actually hitting on me. But I can say that I would see if he fit in my age-range, which is 10 years younger to 5 years older. (Because of the age disparity between myself and my sisters, I wouldn't date someone 10 years older than I am. It would feel weird to me, like I was dating their friends.)

I'm in my mid-40s. If someone was in his 20s and hit on me, I'd think he was looking just for sex. If someone was in his 60s and hit on me, I'd think he was looking for a cook and maid (it's a generational thing). If someone in his 70s hit on me, I'd think he was looking for a nurse.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:24 PM
 
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I was asking a woman friend of mine why some women describe themselves as looking younger than their age. She basically confirmed what I suspected, which is that they worry men will exclude them based on their age. She then asked me why so many men prefer younger women, even when the men don't want kids. So it lead to an "interesting" conversation about what women infer about men based on the age range they set. I threw out some hypotheticals and she offered her opinion.

40 year old man, doesn't want kids, looking for women 25-35. Her conclusion: Man doesn't want to accept that he's 40 and thinks being with a younger woman will make him look/feel young.

35 year old man, doesn't want kids, looking for women 25-38. Her conclusion: Man isn't serious about dating anyone over 35, but doesn't want to make it obvious. He'll hold a 38 year old woman to a much higher standard than a 25 year old.

30 year old man, doesn't want kids, looking for woman 30-50. Her conclusion: Man isn't serious about dating women over 40 and just wants to have sex with them.

I told her I thought she was inferring too much and shouldn't be so quick to form a conclusion about someone based on their preferences. But it made me realize that a lot of women might react the same way as her.

So what do you think? What (if anything) can you infer about someone based on their preferred age range, especially as it relates to their own age? So if someone excludes people their own age, what does that tell you about them? Or if someone has a really wide range, do you take that seriously? And do you think some people try to appear more open-minded than they really are?
Wow, does your friend come to any positive conclusions about men?
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:24 PM
 
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That too. I am trying to figure out why an educated women in her 20's or early 30's would want to be with a man who needs Viagra. I wouldn't. I dated a man 15 years older when I was 22 and he couldn't get it up so I dumped him.
Not all 40 something men slow down sexually nor do they need viagara. If the man in question takes care if himself and excerises he is good to go.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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I'm willing to take that chance, and besides, my bullet has plenty of gunpowder (been proven)

So what, date a woman that's my age (mid 30's btw) that's either done having kids (or cant have more then 1 more) or a 45-50 that's in their yearly stages menopause?

I want the option of a big family, and there's no shortage of 20-30 yr olds who are willing to date an older man like myself. So, I don't see it as problem for me.
I want more kids and you're right in the middle of my age range
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:28 PM
 
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Not all 40 something men slow down sexually nor do they need viagara. If the man in question takes care if himself and excerises he is good to go.
Really. The Viagra years generally don't kick in until the early 50s.

And there are plenty of women in their early 30s who wouldn't consider 40 too old.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:29 PM
 
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It wouldn't be worth worrying about unless I were single and someone was actually hitting on me. But I can say that I would see if he fit in my age-range, which is 10 years younger to 5 years older. (Because of the age disparity between myself and my sisters, I wouldn't date someone 10 years older than I am. It would feel weird to me, like I was dating their friends.)

I'm in my mid-40s. If someone was in his 20s and hit on me, I'd think he was looking just for sex. If someone was in his 60s and hit on me, I'd think he was looking for a cook and maid (it's a generational thing). If someone in his 70s hit on me, I'd think he was looking for a nurse.
I suspect you will go 10 years younger but only 5 years older for the same reasons men do: younger people are more attractive. Blaming it on having older sisters is utter nonsense.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:29 PM
 
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I suspect you will go 10 years younger but only 5 years older for the same reasons men do: younger people are more attractive. Blaming it on having older sisters is utter nonsense.
I suspect you don't know me from Eve and are therefore full of presumptuous garbage.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:30 PM
 
Location: socal baby
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logic tells me to date younger since I want a family.
If you think your desire to have a family is primarily logical, you are probably making your goal more challenging that it should be. Plus, you may not be digging deep enough about what is really driving your motives.

I'm pretty much in your same shows about wanting to have a children, but for me it's all about creating, developing, having a loving, caring, and supportive relationships with those who, well, you love.

I'm sure there are ppl who get into a relationship because "it makes sense" to have a family together (e.g., a financial merger lol), but love is much more of a bond than being practical, convenient, or because it's a good deal.
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