Help with Odd Relationship (girl, loving, child support, sex)
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she likes to cause trouble. She tells me that it brings her joy to cause others pain.
WHOA! Whoa, whoa! Did everyone else see this ^^^? I didn't, on the first read.
OP, why are you with someone like this? Does this reflect your values? Stop and think: do you consider this to be a good match with you? REALLY stop and think about this!
No one in their right mind would be with someone who enjoys causing pain to others. If you stay with her, we'll have to declare you as crazy as she is.
This is what we call a FLASHING NEON RED FLAG! She's already caused you to go into deep depression and flunk out of school, and you want to know how to salvage this relationship?????!!!!!!! If this happened to a friend of yours, would you advise him to stay with her?
Please, OP: stop. Think. Knock some sense into your own head. You'll be a failure if you STAY with this woman! You've already become a failure in school because of her. If you leave her, you'll be a winner.
What the **** is wrong with you? Is all this worth it?? A sexless fight laden depressing relationship with someone who doesnt like you?? You ****ing tripping bruh.
It sounds to me like the two of you have incompatible communication styles. You need things to be direct, and she needs them to be indirect.
This is like me and my ex -- he found an indirect woman, after we broke up, and they are married and happy as clams. He says they go around and around, with repetitions of, 'I don't know, what do you want?' and he likes this. I laughed and told him affectionately that that would drive me insane .
As for antidepressants, given the context that you describe, I think you will find that therapy will work more quickly and have far longer-lasting results. Look up the studies showing permanent changes in depressed brains from talk therapy. And you should be able to get it for free at school.
I have no idea whether she is a bad person or has a screw loose. But I don't think she is compatible with you, based on communication style alone.
Before I tell this story, I'm a 23 year old male that has been in a relationship with a 21 year old female for a year and 8 months. I'm the kind of guy that puts everything he has into his relationships. It's just we've been having a really hard time and I feel like I need some help.
So to start off, we've had our share of rocky times. Most of the time, it seems like we get along great and nothing ever seems to be a problem. I'm kind of an easy going guy, and she likes to cause trouble. She tells me that it brings her joy to cause others pain.
That's as far as I needed to read.
You must enjoy having pain inflicted upon you if you didn't bolt the second she put you on notice that she's an antisocial twit, much less have been with such a toxic person for 8 months. That being the case, stick it out because you're made for each other.
I know you've got a lot of time invested in this relationship but you obviously are not happy and she sounds like a very toxic person. It sounds to me like the best thing to do here is to terminate the relationship. I think in the long run you'll look back and be oh so glad that you did. Good luck to you.
Move on. Let her deal with her own idiocy. Shes playing games ith you. Tel her you won't play and to go away. She's probably a fatal attraction kind of gal so exect a boiling bunny ( in your case a boiling kitten ) in your kitchen in a pot. But you need to get distance from crazy
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