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I seriously hope that this thread does not offend anyone and that this thread does not violate any of the rules of/in this forum.
I am obviously talking about this from a moral perspective, rather than from a legal one. Also, I am obviously talking about notifying/telling their partners this information "early on," before their relationship gets "in too deep."
For the record, I am open to the idea of getting a sex change myself in the long run. Also, I am very open to the idea of marrying a trans-women, in large part due to their inability to get pregnant.
In response to my own question, I would say Yes, since I think that many people might (IMHO, unfortunately) care a lot about this, and thus I don't think that it would be a good idea for trans-people to wait until their relationship with someone else is "in too deep" to tell their partners about their "status" (for the lack of a better word), since doing this could lead to their partners becoming emotionally/mentally hurt and/or traumatized and since in the worse case scenario, this could unfortunately lead to violence against these trans-people, as was the case with Angie Zapata several years ago.
I've had this discussion with several people at a party before, it gets heated.
My opinion is that yes, it should be discussed before things go anywhere.
Part of it is about respect. I'll respect that youre a transgender even though I can't fully comprehend it, and I expect the transgender to have the same respect towards others, to know that some people don't feel comfortable with a situation like that.
Not sure why you added SO/spouse to the title. You would hope it doesn't get that far without the person being told. So to answer your question, yes trans-people should notify their dates of their status
I would think that discussing it would be better than trying to hide it and hope the other party is gonna be accepting of the fact after being mislead. Especially when its deep into the relationship emotions come into play and it would be unfair to do that to someone. You're better off knowing if they are open to starting that kind of relationship or not in the beginning. No point in wasting your time or his if it won't go. I bet there are a lot of guys who probably had sex with transgendered guys without knowing.
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Originally Posted by srjth
Apparently these days, if you don't sleep with someone by the 3rd date, you get dumped.
No s**t? Back when I was dating most first dates was maybe heavy kissing and by the third date you were lucky if you got to see her boobies and she grabbed Mr Hammer and gave it a few tugs. Forget getting to see or play with Cookie Monster.
It looks so much different, it would be impossible to not know. Yes they should inform the other person, although its usually obvious even with their clothes on.
Either way, I've never seen a tranny try to hide their status, ever.
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