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Old 09-09-2013, 11:50 PM
 
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I occasionally peruse through dating profiles online and stumble upon something that I find quite odd. Women that are married or in a relationship that say they are just looking for friends and nothing more. Their add appears to men only so I assume they are strictly looking for male fiends.

The questions that I have are, is they boyfriends/husbands of these women know that they're looking for friends on a online dating site? If so, I wonder if they mind at all?

After giving it some thought I'm starting to think these women are just using some kind or round about attempt to cheat on their men and claim it just happened by accident. That they just happen to fall for this new "friend".

They can meet a guy as just "friends" and when one thing leads to another they'll be like "oh well I didn't mean for it to happen this way, whoops".

I mean seriously, who goes on a dating site to meet friends???
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Old 09-10-2013, 02:36 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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My guess is that they're attention whores who aren't on there specifically to cheat, but will cheat within a few weeks of meeting a new "friend" on there.
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Old 09-10-2013, 02:40 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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They want the D. They are just in denial.
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Old 09-10-2013, 03:31 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Fwb
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Old 09-10-2013, 04:27 AM
 
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They want the D. They are just in denial.
lol
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Old 09-10-2013, 08:19 AM
 
Location: Windham County, VT
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I only included "also looking for new friends" in my profile when I was unattached.
It meant that if I didn't "click" romantically with a guy I met through OLD, I'd still consider whether we could be friends.
And when I say "friends", I mean just that-though I disabled my profile completely once I found a boyfriend, so as not to lead anyone on.
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Old 09-10-2013, 08:25 AM
 
Location: socal baby
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means their either committed, working on something towards that, or keepin their options open.

if a guy says he is looking for friends, most women think he is looking for commitment less hook up sex.
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Old 09-10-2013, 08:27 AM
 
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Some men do this too and I think they just like fantasizing by participating in the mating dance, but pretending that they're not (this helps with guilt). But the key point is that they don't really want to physically cheat and definitely not leave their spouse. Again, men do this as well as women.

Oh, and PS - Are you sure this is a site specifically for dating and not one where you can look for platonic friends too?
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Old 09-10-2013, 08:33 AM
 
Location: socal baby
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huh, i guess that goes for both men and women who may be in committed relationships. i think having an online "emotional affair" is bad news, and for either sex of course.
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Old 09-10-2013, 08:35 AM
 
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huh, i guess that goes for both men and women who may be in committed relationships. i think having an online "emotional affair" is bad news, and for either sex of course.
For sure.
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