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I was wondering how often do these relationships take place? I often hear about a man with a career or some higher education knowledge while the woman never went to college (this is my parents' case; my father studied for 2 years and then quitted but he knows some business administration concepts and is the landlord of another house consisting of 6 apartments while my mother is an SAHM and is keeps learning new things from us; if I asked her about the conflict with Syria she's clueless about that too) but how about the opposite?
I'm currently slightly more than half of my major (tourism, culinary arts & business administration) and will be finishing it by 2015. Afterward, I will resume my first former major, which was psychology and finish the 2 remaining years. My situation was very difficult for a while as I couldn't continue college and had to quit for personal reasons but I've been back since 2011. I have interest in still continuing further, traveling and improving in French.
However, my then bf J (now ex bf but we do plan on getting back together; it's a complicated issue that's keeping us apart; something out of our control but won't go into details) never went to college and is still afraid of driving but he is a supervisor at a supermarket. Apparently he is more street-smart (ex: can tell if someone is a fake friend but isn't an intellectual; only knows basic history) while I've always been more on the bookish side and willing to learn more. Also my family is more wealthy than J's while in my parents' case, my mother was poor while my father wasn't.
How often do relationships like these work out? Do they happen too or is it few? Where it's the woman that has a more wealthy family than the man and a higher education level while he is a blue-collar worker? He doesn't mind that I can outsmart him in books and intellectual topics and has even told me on many different occasions that he has never been in a relationship with a career-oriented woman.
So much for a lay chick.
What if your Dad had thought, "Oh this woman is so beneath my status" when he met your mother?
Affluent white collar professionals seldom intermingle with working class types so it is pretty rare.
You seem to be making the assumption that all white collar professionals are affluent. I know construction workers who make more than college professors.
Some people have certain criteria that their SO must meet in order for them to be considered.
Personally, if you have a job and are not living off the government, I don't care what you do as long as its legal. I would date a lawyer, doctor, police officer/fireman, construction worker, sales associate, etx.......
HOLD OFF I'm aware of the difficult job market so if they are living off the government I would like that person to see this as tempory because I do understand that people fall on hard times.
Btw I have a "white collar" job with college degrees. I don't require that in my SO.
I think the important thing is for each partner to be able to contribute to the relationship esp during times where one might be out of work or having a need they require some financial help with. No reason the different professions can't have a great relationship. Blue collar with some is viewed as the lower skill set but many blue collar folks make nice income with benefits. But despite money being important, it can often come and go and many live paycheck to paycheck despite solid income due to getting stuff, like sleeping in the street and fighting over iPhones. We are a status and consumer obsessed culture. And believe me you can lose your s**t real quick. All of it. One catastrophic illness, a lost job or a fire can take it away. Best advice is be sensible and humble. Appreciate good people in your life that you got. There ain't that many of em.
I think the important thing is for each partner to be able to contribute to the relationship esp during times where one might be out of work or having a need they require some financial help with. No reason the different professions can't have a great relationship. Blue collar with some is viewed as the lower skill set but many blue collar folks make nice income with benefits. But despite money being important, it can often come and go and many live paycheck to paycheck despite solid income due to getting stuff, like sleeping in the street and fighting over iPhones. We are a status and consumer obsessed culture. And believe me you can lose your s**t real quick. All of it. One catastrophic illness, a lost job or a fire can take it away. Best advice is be sensible and humble. Appreciate good people in your life that you got. There ain't that many of em.
Couldn't agree with you more. Great post, D. Scott.
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