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Old 09-27-2013, 10:24 AM
 
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I rather be something than nothing to a person that I liked.

I mean, it's said the best person to marry is your BEST FRIEND.

Man or woman, it's better to be in the friend zone than in the "creepy weird person" zone.

Besides being in the romantic relationship, the friend zone is the safest place to be.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Canada
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People put themselves in the friend zone if they aren't honest about their desires and intentions. They linger there, in their own personal purgatory, hoping that the other person will magically change their feelings toward them and they'll form a romantic relationship.

Being in the "friend zone" is not at all the same as genuinely being someone's friend because you like them and have things in common.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Good friends are far too precious to marry.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:40 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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Contrary to what some of the posters around here are insisting, it is very possible for men and women to have friendships.

If nothing else, having women as friends gives you lots of experience with how to talk to them and how to relate to them. So, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex.

If the "friend" is someone you have storing desires for, then the choice is entirely yours. If you like their company, there is no reason to not hang out with them. If it drives you crazy to not have sex with them, then perhaps it is better to stay away from them.

Men who can't control their hormones and can't be in physical proximity to any woman without having sex with her are, as a generalization, pretty creepy.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:42 AM
 
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I rather be something than nothing to a person that I liked.

I mean, it's said the best person to marry is your BEST FRIEND.

Man or woman, it's better to be in the friend zone than in the "creepy weird person" zone.

Besides being in the romantic relationship, the friend zone is the safest place to be.
Depends on the circumstances.

If you have feelings for the person, it can be difficult.

I am still friends with a woman that rejected me many years back. All of the feelings are gone so it's OK. She is a solid friend and married.

I fell for another woman a few years ago and she also rejected me, but I couldn't be friends with her. I thought I could, but the thought of her being with another man just killed me. So, I cut contact. The first time I've ever done that with any woman in my life, including women I've dated.

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People put themselves in the friend zone if they aren't honest about their desires and intentions. They linger there, in their own personal purgatory, hoping that the other person will magically change their feelings toward them and they'll form a romantic relationship.

Being in the "friend zone" is not at all the same as genuinely being someone's friend because you like them and have things in common.
YOU believe in all that mumbo jumbo?

Judging from your posts, I'm surprised.

If a guy is only interested in a woman's looks, then he has no feelings for her. So, he's not a friend and he doesn't care about her.

If he likes her based on her personality and has feelings for her, than they are friends.

I have rarely heard of a man (grown man) being tortured over any woman he did not like as a person/friend. Nor have I often heard of a grown man being a toadstool for a woman just because she was hot and liked nothing else about her.

I think women make this up to feel less bad about rejecting men. Believe me, if we really like you, we like you for more than your T&A.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:45 AM
 
Location: Terra
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Yes it is, unless she hooks you up with one of her friends.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:47 AM
 
Location: NY
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I rather be something than nothing to a person that I liked.

I mean, it's said the best person to marry is your BEST FRIEND.

Man or woman, it's better to be in the friend zone than in the "creepy weird person" zone.

Besides being in the romantic relationship, the friend zone is the safest place to be.
People in the friend zone don't typically get married. Your spouse is more than a best friend, which is why they are your spouse.

Being a friend with someone, or a best friend is great most of the time. However, if you want more, and they do not, you call it the "friend zone" and it is not so good. I'd say being in the friend zone is a negative based on it's working definition.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:52 AM
 
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I rather be something than nothing to a person that I liked.

I mean, it's said the best person to marry is your BEST FRIEND.

Man or woman, it's better to be in the friend zone than in the "creepy weird person" zone.

Besides being in the romantic relationship, the friend zone is the safest place to be.
I don't mind it. In fact, I have wound up dating a few women after being friends for quite some time. It doesn't always happen, but the frienship alone is worth it IMO. If they are good enough to crush on, they are good enough to befriend.
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Old 09-27-2013, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Canada
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YOU believe in all that mumbo jumbo?

Judging from your posts, I'm surprised.

If a guy is only interested in a woman's looks, then he has no feelings for her. So, he's not a friend and he doesn't care about her.

If he likes her based on her personality and has feelings for her, than they are friends.

I have rarely heard of a man (grown man) being tortured over any woman he did not like as a person/friend. Nor have I often heard of a grown man being a toadstool for a woman just because she was hot and liked nothing else about her.

I think women make this up to feel less bad about rejecting men. Believe me, if we really like you, we like you for more than your T&A.
I don't care for the term "friend zone", but that's what people call the place where people end up when they have romantic feelings for someone who doesn't return those feelings. What I really disagree with is someone else putting them in the friend zone, when it's really the person with the unrequited feelings that has put themselves in that position...hanging around someone who doesn't return their feelings, hoping that by pretending to be their friend, when they really have ulterior motives, will make that person see them as desirable and suddenly want a romantic relationship.

But I think this is for a younger age group. I think most mature adults don't carry on like this.
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Old 09-27-2013, 11:11 AM
 
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What I really disagree with is someone else putting them in the friend zone, when it's really the person with the unrequited feelings that has put themselves in that position...hanging around someone who doesn't return their feelings, hoping that by pretending to be their friend, when they really have ulterior motives, will make that person see them as desirable and suddenly want a romantic relationship.
If guy likes a woman enough to stick around them, and try and change their mind, then there was some kind of a friendship there in the first place. Yes, they have an subconscious ulterior motive, but that does not mean they are not your friend. They still like you for who you are.

From my own experience, we really do want to just be your friend, but we really can't help it, we still like you.

Of course, I have every kind of countermeasure to employ these days, since I've been rejected every which way.

For a player who sticks around a hot woman pretending to be her friend so he can get in her pants. Yea, that happens. But, they won't be on online forums complaining about being stuck in the 'friendzone' because they won't have any feelings for that woman.

Feel me?
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