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So finally, after one final break up with this total basketcase, I sat down and made a list of all the women I had ever dated seriously and figured out what they all had in common. Then I decided to date the total opposite.
...and it tells us something about them, if their venting takes the form of saying mean things, or making broad disparaging declarations about whole categories of humans.
To me, it says they are undatable, same as if the remarks were racist or similar.
Sublimated homosexuality, FTW .
As a goodlooking woman, I figure guys who value my looks that much don't really want a female partner.
...but can we learn, over time, to stop giving too much weight to the wrong things?
I am talking primarily about physical beauty here. While I appreciate physical beauty as much as the next man, I no longer give beauty as much weight as I once did. Life has taught me beauty isn't worth as much as many men believe it is. To be blunt, the most beautiful women are not necessarily the most sexually interesting. Nor can beauty compensate for a really nasty personality.
I mention this because I know a number of men--good friends of mine--who have tolerated what should be intolerable behavior from women simply because they were so "hot." I am talking about everything from verbal abuse to thievery. These are not dumb guys, either. They are quite functional in most respects. Yet, what they will put up with to hold on to a "hot" women is just embarrassing. What is worse, these same guys routinely ignore all the warm, sweet, smart, interesting, compatible women they know because they don't consider them "hot" enough.
Am I the only person who is bewildered by this?
No, you have just become an evolved man...congratulations!
There is so much more to each human than looks, and when we allow ourselves to get to know people we often find that we become attracted to them later after we have experienced more of who they are -- looks are fleeting, and as we mature, hopefully most of us begin to understand what's truly important in a partner.
Yep... I've had guys put up with some pretty incredible stuff if a woman is hot. I'm talking setting their house on fire, stealing their car, stealing money, threatening female coworkers etc etc. Really bad stuff. But, apparently the 'crazy' is worth it according to them.
I don't have a physical ideal in my head...but I think the guy I'm dating is supremely handsome. My sister thinks he's goofy looking, but she's not the one dating him so
LOL - remember that line from "The Truth about Cats and Dogs" when Janeane Garofalo complains that men can hear a beautiful woman burp the alphabet and declare that they want her to have their children. . .
Wish I had thought of those words -- how truly profound!
It's Biblical.
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