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Do you lie and say you dont find someone else attractive to spare your SO's feelings?
This is an odd question to me. Does your partner ask you, or do you volunteer it out of the blue? They shouldn't ask if they don't want to know the answer, but I wouldn't go out of my way to tell my partner all the people I find attractive, either.
Many posters assumed the question is in regards to a celebrity or some stranger but I wonder if y'all would respond differently if it were about someone both of you know -- for example, your SO's bff?
I put this question in the same bucket as "Do I look fat in this?" and "If I die, would you remarry and, if so, would s/he look like me?"
There are no real good honest answers for them.
It shouldnt be a big deal even then unless you believe your partner will have sex with anyone he or she thinks is good looking
I don't go out of my way to inflict pain on any of the people I call a friend. I accept them for who they are and take care not to hurt them, whether I understand them, or not. I know what hurts their feelings. We are not talking about TRUTH, here. We are talking about feelings.
No need to lie to save anyone's feelings, there is nothing wrong or unusual about noticing and commenting on the beauty of another human.
If you are with someone whose feelings are bruised that easily because you have noticed and/or commented on the beauty of another human they have serious insecurity issues and probably a few other issues.
I would not be with someone like that.
No need to lie to save anyone's feelings, there is nothing wrong or unusual about noticing and commenting on the beauty of another human.
If you are with someone whose feelings are bruised that easily because you have noticed and/or commented on the beauty of another human they have serious insecurity issues and probably a few other issues.
I would not be with someone like that.
There's always the flip side where someone could be commenting on the attractiveness of others and never bothering to compliment their SO.
As to the OP's question, how would it even come up that you might need to lie about finding someone else attractive? Is your partner interrogating you about every person you see? Are you making it obvious that you notice others (i.e. ogling?) Are you with someone insecure who needs validation? I really don't get it.
My feelings aren't hurt if my SO finds someone attractive, but he also doesn't go out of his way to point anyone out. On occasion we both might notice someone very striking, male or female, and comment on it, but I think it's more a mental note "wow, he/she is hot" rather than actually announcing it out loud.
That's a good point. On a day-to-day situation I'm more prone to comment on attractive women.
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There's always the flip side where someone could be commenting on the attractiveness of others and never bothering to compliment their SO.
As to the OP's question, how would it even come up that you might need to lie about finding someone else attractive? Is your partner interrogating you about every person you see? Are you making it obvious that you notice others (i.e. ogling?) Are you with someone insecure who needs validation? I really don't get it.
My feelings aren't hurt if my SO finds someone attractive, but he also doesn't go out of his way to point anyone out. On occasion we both might notice someone very striking, male or female, and comment on it, but I think it's more a mental note "wow, he/she is hot" rather than actually announcing it out loud.
I think your first point is excellent... my ex rarely complimented me but constantly talked about how hot other women were. He'd compare me to them (see, if you did squats you could have a butt like your friend Jane, or 'It's super mild surgery to fix your nose, then it could look more like Saras' etc.) and I think that was the reason I didn't like it. Honestly, I know I'm not the prettiest woman out there and there are a LOT of women who are more attractive than me....but you don't have to rub it in my face. And maybe every one in a while tell me I'm pretty too
I think your first point is excellent... my ex rarely complimented me but constantly talked about how hot other women were. He'd compare me to them (see, if you did squats you could have a butt like your friend Jane, or 'It's super mild surgery to fix your nose, then it could look more like Saras' etc.) and I think that was the reason I didn't like it. Honestly, I know I'm not the prettiest woman out there and there are a LOT of women who are more attractive than me....but you don't have to rub it in my face. And maybe every one in a while tell me I'm pretty too
I can't believe you gave him boyfriend time
Why do women put up with these dicks but constantly ignore good fellas?
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