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...are most of you fairly young? Do you think you will still feel the same way in 20 years if you haven't found someone?
I ask because I recently came across an interesting statistic: in the US, the percentage of heterosexual women over 35 who have never had children is only about 18%. And that, believe it or not, is significantly higher than it was 30 years ago.
That means if you reach your late-30s/early 40s and are still single, your chances of finding a woman without children is pretty small. If you maintain your determination never to date anyone with kids, you'll have to eliminate over 80% of women your own age from your dating pool before you even get into questions of mutual attraction, compatibility, etc.
It would be better if the kids dad was not in the picture way less drama IMO. I really do not want to deal with a girls lowbrow POS .
I would think if the kid's dad was not in the picture, that is a RECIPE for drama. If the father is involved and maintains a respectful co parenting relationship, would that be okay? Because, if not, sounds like it's an insecurity issue on the new man's part.
...are most of you fairly young? Do you think you will still feel the same way in 20 years if you haven't found someone?
I ask because I recently came across an interesting statistic: in the US, the percentage of heterosexual women over 35 who have never had children is only about 18%. And that, believe it or not, is significantly higher than it was 30 years ago.
That means if you reach your late-30s/early 40s and are still single, your chances of finding a woman without children is pretty small. If you maintain your determination never to date anyone with kids, you'll have to eliminate over 80% of women your own age from your dating pool before you even get into questions of mutual attraction, compatibility, etc.
If that time comes, will any of you reconsider?
I myself am still somewhat young. I'm not even 30. I'm not determined never to date a single mother, though. I might actually go with one.
Is this another Anti-man thread started by another male poster?
I didn't see it that way, and I usually do jump to that conclusion with this type of thread. Sounds like a legitimate question, and has a point worth considering. Again...IMHO.
Is this another Anti-man thread started by another male poster?
No, it isn't. I am asking a serious question.
I am now 44 and dating a woman with 2 teenage kids. But when I was in my early 20s, I vowed never to date a single mother. That is what got me interested.
Honestly, I don't know how you could have read my question as "anti-male. "
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I would think if the kid's dad was not in the picture, that is a RECIPE for drama. If the father is involved and maintains a respectful co parenting relationship, would that be okay? Because, if not, sounds like it's an insecurity issue on the new man's part.
IMHO, as always.
Well from the single moms I have talk to most of the guys want nothing to do with there kids.
I am sure there are some great dads that are respectful co parenting relationship but it is not very often.
IMO if the kids dad does not want anything to do with his kids the child is better off in the long run.
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I'm really surprised that the % is that low, but I think a lot of men that don't want to deal with children at that age will just date women 10 years or so younger.
I, too, thought I'd avoid single moms in my 20s as I wanted to travel, party, etc. Glad I grew out of that idiocy. The single mom generally (in my experience) generally has the kid every other week, so you see each other less, but it gives me more solo time which I like.
It would be better if the kids dad was not in the picture way less drama IMO. I really do not want to deal with a girls lowbrow POS .
I think you are assuming a lot.The parents are divorced. Maybe the parents just didn't get along, maybe the marriage was rushed and a mistake, maybe he had a moment of weakness and cheated (or she cheated on him) and they divorced... that doesn't make the father a lowlife (which implies sub human) or any less of a father.
To answer the OPs question, I am thinking most of the posters who won't date single moms are younger guys themselves and have a lot of non-mom dating options. Or maybe they are assuming "single mom" means "a loose woman" who doesn't know how to use birth control. I think they don't really stop and consider single moms who are in that place due to divorce, being widowed, or even by choice.
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