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I am not over the top about wanting serious relationships either, but it doesn't help the matter that I have minimal luck having any female contact, lol.
I don't think I'm terribly unattractive, just a bit reserved.
It's gonna be hard to snuggle up to someone when you hate people in general.
I notice that you often take it upon your self to call me out for being misanthropic, judgmental, etc. Who are you to pass judgement based on what you read on an internet forum?
I agree with you then, about trying to force "school spirit", etc. down people's throats.
But you can ignore all that. There must be clubs and groups that are organized around people's academic interests and hobbies. Have you tried some of those? Have you tried approaching the women who are more active in class participation, and therefore tend to be more intellectual and mature? Really what have you tried? You need to take some initiative if you want to find people who are compatible with you.
Also, if you like soccer, hiking or canoeing/kayaking, there are soccer leagues organized by the Parks Department (these are popular and can be very effective as a way to meet potential gf/bf), there's the Mountaineers hiking club and also the Sierra Club, which has singles hikes, and there are kayak and canoe clubs in town. You could also volunteer on a committee to help with the Folklife Festival, Bumbershoot, or the University District Street Fair (coming up in spring).
You know OP, I see what you are saying. The late teens early twenties somethings are at a different phase. They are still trying to find their way.
As someone in his late 20s (I'm 29), I have been in a completely different stage of life. As a matter of fact, just this year, I under went quite a bit of changes as I reached my 29th birthday. The changes are still happening too.
I am not over the top about wanting serious relationships either, but it doesn't help the matter that I have minimal luck having any female contact, lol.
I don't think I'm terribly unattractive, just a bit reserved.
That would be most problems for guys, they don't know how to initiate anything. Start talking to women more often, no one can do this for you. If you plan on having any chance with any girls you have to talk. Meet a few girls then ask them to go on simple dates, but you have to progress the relationship into something more than just friends. You can't treat it like were just pals, otherwise you will fail in round 2 and you just be in the friend zone. You have to learn how to communicate your attraction to women. That does not mean you have to walk up to them and tell them, there are other non-speaking ways of doing this. For me it's all about eye contact, you just know it when you look at them in the eyes...you get that look, she stares back and you just say to yourself "damn I want to rip her clothes off", you can bet she is saying the same thing. Once that happens it's on....
That would be most problems for guys, they don't know how to initiate anything. Start talking to women more often, no one can do this for you. If you plan on having any chance with any girls you have to talk. Meet a few girls then ask them to go on simple dates, but you have to progress the relationship into something more than just friends. You can't treat it like were just pals, otherwise you will fail in round 2 and you just be in the friend zone. You have to learn how to communicate your attraction to women. That does not mean you have to walk up to them and tell them, there are other non-speaking ways of doing this. For me it's all about eye contact, you just know it when you look at them in the eyes...you get that look, she stares back and you just say to yourself "damn I want to rip her clothes off", you can bet she is saying the same thing. Once that happens it's on....
I notice that you often take it upon your self to call me out for being misanthropic, judgmental, etc. Who are you to pass judgement based on what you read on an internet forum?
I agree with you then, about trying to force "school spirit", etc. down people's throats.
But you can ignore all that. There must be clubs and groups that are organized around people's academic interests and hobbies. Have you tried some of those? Have you tried approaching the women who are more active in class participation, and therefore tend to be more intellectual and mature? Really what have you tried? You need to take some initiative if you want to find people who are compatible with you.
Also, if you like soccer, hiking or canoeing/kayaking, there are soccer leagues organized by the Parks Department (these are popular and can be very effective as a way to meet potential gf/bf), there's the Mountaineers hiking club and also the Sierra Club, which has singles hikes, and there are kayak and canoe clubs in town. You could also volunteer on a committee to help with the Folklife Festival, Bumbershoot, or the University District Street Fair (coming up in spring).
It is just difficult for me to find a desirable medium in which to find these kind of people. People tend to put on fronts a lot and I'm trying to find people who hold no judgement, are genuine about their pursuits, and who don't conduct themselves in a contrived manner.
I will most likely start volunteering at the nwfilmforum now so perhaps I will have better luck there.
I mean, you didn't even actually ask a question. You said yourself in your OP that MAYBE people with "your personality type are not cut out for dating."
Your points illustrate themselves. You're like a living example of what you claim to detest. But you can't see it. All this intellectualized contempt is a defense mechanism. It will just take you a while to figure it out.
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