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If any of you remember my last thread where I asked a professor out to coffee. Here is what happened:
-We went
-Flirted a bit, I touched her hand, walked her back to her car etc
-Kissed her on the cheek afterwards
By the time I got home, she had already texted me saying she had a great time, and we should do it again
How do I make sure she knows I'm not just a really nice former student/graduate? I feel that as a prof, she might think I'm just a really nice student looking to keep some connections at my alma mater.
If any of you remember my last thread where I asked a professor out to coffee. Here is what happened:
-We went
-Flirted a bit, I touched her hand, walked her back to her car etc
-Kissed her on the cheek afterwards
By the time I got home, she had already texted me saying she had a great time, and we should do it again
How do I make sure she knows I'm not just a really nice former student/graduate? I feel that as a prof, she might think I'm just a really nice student looking to keep some connections at my alma mater.
By taking the grownup approach of being direct and forthcoming with her.
Try "Prof, I find you very interesting and attractive and would like to spend more time with you. Would you like to go out to dinner Friday night?".
oh jeez. she knows. she's probably joking or bragging or swooning (depending on how she feels about you) about the student hitting on her to her friends right now
Why is it so hard for so many of you to just spit out what you mean? You're always so damned afraid you'll say the wrong thing. JUST SAY IT.
"I really enjoyed our time together and I'd like to see you again. Please understand I'm not just a nice, former student, I've developed feelings for you and I hope you have for me, too. Do you think there's a chance we could be more than just friends?"
If the answer is no, move on and say thanks.
Now with that said, if you've had ONE date, it's probably too soon to put that much weight onto it. Ask her out again, make it a short time frame (this weekend?) and plan something fun, a music show with dancing, a couple beers (or whatever) and see where it goes.
But if you've been seeing this prof for a while, ask her if she has any feelings beyond "just friends" for you. If she does, and she's honest about it, she'll say "yes," and you can proceed. If she says "no," thank her for her honesty, finish out the evening, give her a peck on the cheek and at the same time, think to yourself, "her loss," and never call her again, let her call you. Look elsewhere and if she calls you, play hard to get. Leave her wanting more.
If this doesn't work out for you, it's a biiig ol' ocean with many fish in it. Far too many for anyone to feel desperate.
If any of you remember my last thread where I asked a professor out to coffee. Here is what happened:
-We went
-Flirted a bit, I touched her hand, walked her back to her car etc
-Kissed her on the cheek afterwards
By the time I got home, she had already texted me saying she had a great time, and we should do it again
How do I make sure she knows I'm not just a really nice former student/graduate? I feel that as a prof, she might think I'm just a really nice student looking to keep some connections at my alma mater.
How many of your friends do you hold hands with and kiss? I'm pretty sure she knows, you're trying to get in her pants.
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